What are the toughest challenges in being a single mother

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What are the toughest challenges in being a single mother

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Some of the most challenging things for a newly single parent is the propensity to over indulge the kids to make up for the change in the family structure. What kids need during those first couple of months, those first couple of years are routines and consistency. So taking the time to look at your life. Are you doing all the car pooling? Are you driving kids back and forth? How many activities are they engaged in? What's your work schedule? When do you get a babysitter? When is your time off? when do you get time with your friends so you can fill your well? Really looking at that strategically and figuring out how all those pieces are going to work together. More importantly though is getting the kids to help you create a new family dynamic. How are going to divide and conquer? Who's going to take care of what new jobs? What new sports can you give up maybe for a few months until we get a new rhythm? Are there people you can carpool with so that I can be home to help your brother with homework? Instead of trying to do it all to make it better, to keep things the same, embrace that this is a new change. Embrace that this is different, that you haven't been here before, that there will be challenges that you have not faced. But when you ask your kids to help, when you invite their feedback, when you elicit their ideas, suddenly you are putting together a family structure that works perfectly for all of you.

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Vicki Hoefle

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Vicki Hoefle is a professional parent educator with over 20 years experience teaching parents, educators and caregivers how to raise respectful, responsible and resilient children. Hoefle combines her expertise in Adlerian Psychology and as an International Coaching Federation certified coach to bring parents Duct Tape Parenting, a sustainable and proactive parenting strategy that provides time-tested tools for harvesting a happy and peaceful family life. Her informative and highly engaging presentation style keeps her in demand as a speaker, facilitator and educator. Hoefle is a mother of six and lives in Middlebury, Vermont.

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