Having consequences for your child's behavior that are set up ahead of time will be more effective than if you surprise your kids by taking something away, for example. Letting your child know what to expect of them, is helpful. For example, if a situation comes up that needs to have a consequence; you can sit down and talk to them, even ask older kids, "What do you think the consequences should be?" A lot of parents are surprised that I say that, but you would be surprised. Sometimes, an emotional breakdown happens and there is a reason behind their situation or behavior. That situation, alone, might be a consequence for that situation. They might come up with a consequence that is much more harsh than you would have and it might be more effective.