Emotional intelligence is the ability to be connected to what you feel. Basically, that's the bottom line. When you know what you feel, it's much easier to pick up on the non-verbal cues that tell you what the feelings of other people are. People who are emotionally intelligent are using the emotional parts of their brain. That part is on, they are comfortable it, they are not being overwhelmed or underwhelmed by it. It's something they use and are comfortable with and they use in their decision-making processes. Everything they do. They connect how they feel, as well as, what they think.