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What are the dangers of permissive parenting?

You can never give your child too much support, but you can have too few expectations and set to fee limits. That's permissive parenting. Permissive parents raise kids who are not a self disciplined. And they need to be to succeed in life. Why? Because they give them much of support and and never give your child too much support. But they don't have high in ethics expectations and set limits. So, they may excuse their child when their child doesn't do, doesn't meet their expectations, doesn't do their homework, doesn't do what they need to do to be responsible. Why do we parent permissively? It is the most natural thing in the world, we want our child to be happy but in-fact happiness comes from being emotionally whole and accomplishing things in life. being able to accomplish our goals and if we handicapped our child's ability to develop self discipline, we are actually sabotaging their happiness. And the child is not asked to at times give up what they want in order to do what someone else wants. we all need the experience in doing that growing up, in order to develop the prefrontal cortex because that is where executive function lies, that's where self discipline lies. That's what allows us to switch gears, we may want to speed but we realized the speed limit does not let us speed and we are willing to shift gears to do what's necessary to get in to situation. That's self discipline. Permissive parents handicapped their kids because they don't ask them to meet those high expectations and to accommodate those limits that are necessary in growing up.

Psychologist Laura Markham, PhD, shares advice for parents on why children of permissive parents are less likely to be successful and the importance of setting limits and expectations for your children


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Laura Markham, PhD

Clinical Psychologist

Dr. Laura Markham is the author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting. She earned her PhD in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University and has worked as a parenting coach with countless parents across the English-speaking world, both in person and via phone. You can find Dr. Laura online at, the website of Aha! Moments for parents of kids from birth through the teen years, where you can sign up for her free daily inspiration email.  Dr. Laura lives in New York with her husband and her kids, who are now 17 and 21.

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