The importance of compassion and integrity for dads

Frederick Goodall, Blogger of "Mocha Dad", shares advice for dads on the important role that compassion and integrity plays in being a good example for your children
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The importance of compassion and integrity for dads

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integrity is particularly important to men, because this is who you are. Men need to understand that the words, the way they behave, their actions all these things are very important. if you behave one way, or say things in certain situations but do things differently in different situations, people start to question your integrity. And you don't really want that happen. This is especially important for fathers, your word has to be your bond with your children. If you tell them you are going to the recital, you better be at the recital because they remember these things. They won't remember the gifts that you bring them but they will remember that time when you show up. So you have to show up cause your integrity is at stake. Compassion is a huge trait for dad's to have, a lot of people believe that men are not compassionate and that is not true. Men have a form of compassion that is different from women's compassion. The true definition of compassion is, the need and having the desire to take care of that need. We have to show our children that we have feeling that we compassionate beings, we have to show them that we care about others. If we don't display these traits our kids won;t understand how to develop it. We have to do it not only by saying I am compassionate person but by doing compassionate things. Going out to the community, helping others but also having that compassion at home. understanding that we have to take care of the needs with our children, wit our wives, with our family, our extended family. We have to show that compassion every single time.

Frederick Goodall, Blogger of "Mocha Dad", shares advice for dads on the important role that compassion and integrity plays in being a good example for your children

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Frederick J. Goodall

Blogger, "Mocha Dad"

Frederick J. Goodall is a writer, a speaker, and a father. In 2008, he started the popular fatherhood blog, "Mocha Dad" to chronicle his life as a dad and to counter the negative stereotypes regarding black fatherhood. He wanted to give readers a first-hand account of a black father who is intimately involved in his children’s lives. Now he uses the blog to not only capture his experiences, but also to help motivate other men to be more actively engaged and involved with their children, families, and communities.

Through his writing, Goodall attempts to address serious cultural and social issues. His articles and essays have been published in numerous magazines, newspapers, and journals such as The Houston Chronicle, Essence, and Folio Weekly. His work has also appeared in the anthologies: Paper Thin/Soul Deep and The African-American Book of Values. In addition, Goodall is a regular contributor to the websites Mamiverse, Goldfishsmiles, Your Teen Mag, and Together Counts. Goodall also travels the country speaking on the topics of fatherhood, men’s issues, social media, and blogging.

Goodall was born in Houston, Texas and graduated from Howard University in Washington, D.C. He currently lives in Houston with his wife and three kids.

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integrity is particularly important to men, because this is who you are. Men need to understand that the words, the way they behave, their actions all these things are very important. if you behave one way, or say things in certain situations but do things differently in different situations, people start to question your integrity. And you don't really want that happen. This is especially important for fathers, your word has to be your bond with your children. If you tell them you are going to the recital, you better be at the recital because they remember these things. They won't remember the gifts that you bring them but they will remember that time when you show up. So you have to show up cause your integrity is at stake. Compassion is a huge trait for dad's to have, a lot of people believe that men are not compassionate and that is not true. Men have a form of compassion that is different from women's compassion. The true definition of compassion is, the need and having the desire to take care of that need. We have to show our children that we have feeling that we compassionate beings, we have to show them that we care about others. If we don't display these traits our kids won;t understand how to develop it. We have to do it not only by saying I am compassionate person but by doing compassionate things. Going out to the community, helping others but also having that compassion at home. understanding that we have to take care of the needs with our children, wit our wives, with our family, our extended family. We have to show that compassion every single time.