Kids In The House's blog https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house en 5 Important Things To Consider When Choosing Your Pediatrician https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/5-important-things-to-consider-when-choosing-your-pediatrician <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/blog-5-important-things.jpg" width="628" height="363" alt="what is so important about pediatratricians, how to pick a pediatrician, pediatrician near me, Parenting Advice, Child, Parent, Parenting, Parenting Tips, KidsintheHouseTV, Parents, facebook parenting video, how to parenting, pregnancy, pediatric associates, pediatrician, parenting, doctor, pediatric, pediatrics, child, children&#039;s hospital, baby" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p>One of the most important decisions we make as parents is choosing our child’s pediatrician.  The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that babies be seen by a pediatrician at 2, 4, 6, 12, 18 and 24 months.  Some pediatricians even recommend <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/baby/development-and-health/overview/what-are-well-child-visits-and-how-often-do-they-occur">monthly visits</a> until two years of age to ensure any developmental delays are responded to quickly.</p> <p>The pediatrician you pick is going to be a big part of you and your child’s life for the first 2 years.  Here are the 5 most important things to consider when choosing the right one:</p> <p><strong>1. Location, location, location</strong> When transporting a sick baby to the doctor’s office, every minute feels like an hour.  Having to factor in extra time for traffic delays can make the experience even more stressful.  If you ask a room full of parents, they will all tell you that proximity to your child’s pediatrician is what matters most.</p> <p><strong>2. Trust</strong> Make sure to ask for recommendations from your friends and your obstetrician, and take the time to meet with several different doctors before deciding on a pediatrician.  All medical doctors are accredited but each has their own strengths and weaknesses.  An interview is an opportunity to figure out how confident the doctor makes you feel about their abilities and this is how you establish trust.</p> <p><strong>3. Philosophy</strong> These days everyone has their own parenting style and a philosophy that goes along with it.  You want your pediatrician to be supportive of the choices you make for your child, and to trust that the care your child receives aligns with your beliefs.  Whether it’s vaccines, or a vegetarian diet, make sure your pediatrician is knowledgeable and can advise you on the best ways to care for your child using your chosen parenting method.</p> <p><strong>4. Availability</strong> Is your physician available after hours and on the weekends?  Can you call them at their house?  These are the type of questions you need to ask so you are prepared for the unexpected, as well as emergency situations.  Just knowing that you are able to reach your child’s pediatrician 24 hours a day, 7 days a week is a huge comfort.</p> <p><strong>5. Connection</strong> Finally, the personal connection you feel with your baby’s pediatrician can help inspire your confidence as a parent. This has more to do with personality than character.  This person will play an important role in your life and the life of your child, so take the time to find a pediatrician you are compatible with.   It is essential to creating a partnership where you know that you are both equally invested in the health and happiness of your child.</p> </div></div></div><div class="field field-name-field-blog-video field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="315" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/JomAt716EHY" width="560"></iframe></div></div></div> Sun, 29 Oct 2017 20:05:13 +0000 Kids In The House 49663 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/5-important-things-to-consider-when-choosing-your-pediatrician#comments Having a Transgender Child https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/having-a-transgender-child <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/screen_shot_2016-05-02_at_1.12.23_pm.jpg" width="1694" height="951" alt="transgender children, gender nonconforming, what is being transgender, Parenting Tips, Parenting Advice, Child, Parent, Parenting, gay, lesbian, transgender, trasngender kids, what to do when your kid is transgender, transgender kids, transgender child, gender, kids" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p>When a child begins to question their gender identity or comes out as <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/sexuality/transgender">transgender</a>, the process of growing up can become infinitely more complicated. As the parent of a transgender or gender nonconforming child, you also face a whole new set of struggles. Instead of feeling guilty for not understanding or approving of your child’s gender identity, understand where these feelings come from and how to move forward in a way that is beneficial to the whole family.</p> <p><strong>What is a Transgender Child?</strong></p> <p>A transgender child is one who feels their <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/sexuality/transgender/the-difference-between-sex-and-gender">sex and gender</a> do not match up. Sex in this instance refers to their physical anatomy, while gender is what they feel that they are  and want to represent themselves to the world. For example, a child born with male genitalia can feel psychologically and emotionally that their gender is actually aligned with the female gender.</p> <p>For many people, it can be mind boggling to think that a person who looks like a certain gender does not feel that they are. Choosing a gender, however, is just as involuntary as choosing your own height.</p> <p>“[Parents] really need to understand that you are born with your gender identity. It’s an immutable characteristic in part of your core being and your gender is not a choice,” explains Dr. Johanna Olson, MD, Director of the Center for Transyouth Health and Development at Children’s Hospital Los Angeles.</p> <p><strong>Parenting a Transgender Child</strong></p> <p>Understanding what a transgender child is does not necessarily mean a parent knows how to process and move forward with this monumental life development.</p> <p>“The first thing is love your child. It’s as easy as that. Make sure you love your child for who your child is telling you he or she is,” Diane Ehrensaft, PhD, advises. Ehrensaft, a developmental and clinical psychologist, urges parents to communicate support to their child as the immediate first step.</p> <p>Connor Barnas is the mother of two children, with her youngest, a six year old son,  exhibiting an interest in gender fluidity.</p> <p>“I have to say that I would never discourage my son from dressing in girl’s clothes if that’s his desire, if that’s what he would like to do. My deepest belief is that it will cause a disruption in the connection between the two of us,” Barnas explains of her willingness to support her child’s gender exploration.</p> <p>It goes without saying that supporting your child is always a top priority as a parent, but it is understandable that there may be a disconnect between intention and execution. For all of Barnas’s acceptance of her son, she describes a much different reaction from her husband.</p> <p>“My husband believes that maybe while he likes to dress flamboyantly, it’s more important that we direct him to dress a specific way, that we have to help him, that it’s not really coming up from within him, and that it’s our job to redirect him to put him in gender-specific boy clothes and to not encourage him,” Barnas says. According to Ehrensaft, this type of reaction from one parent, if not both, is not uncommon. She notes, “it’s often dads that have a harder time than moms. But whoever that parent is, I would say that’s a very important time to get some mental health supports, so the two of you can talk about it together.” Another strategy? Work to plan out compromises that incorporate the needs and feelings of both parents and the child. In doing so, be sure to remind your child that there is nothing wrong with them, and that any restrictions placed on their self-expression are the result of an unfair society– even if your feelings don’t completely reflect that sentiment.</p> <p>Bringing an experienced professional into the equation can provide much needed guidance and release from guilt, confusion, and distress.</p> <p>“I think families feel very alone when this happens to them, if they are experiencing this with their child,” says Olson, who is also the Medical Director of the Center for TransYouth Health and Development at the Children’s Hospital of Los Angeles. To help combat feelings of isolation, Ehrensaft recommends seeking out support for yourself as a parent in the form of a mental health professional, community support groups, or religious organizations.</p> <p>In a society that places so much importance on appearance, imagine feeling that what you look like is in complete incongruence with how you feel you should look, or want to look. This is more than the desire to tweak a few imperfections, this is the need to represent your identity accurately to the world around you. For a transgender child, having the support and love of their parents will help ease the burden of an already difficult adolescent period.</p> </div></div></div><div class="field field-name-field-article-expert-reference field-type-node-reference field-label-above"><div class="field-label">Expert Reference:&nbsp;</div><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><a href="/expert/parenting-advice-from-johanna-olson-md">Johanna Olson, MD</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/expert/parenting-advice-from-diane-ehrensaft-phd">Diane Ehrensaft, PhD</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/expert/parenting-advice-from-kevin-jennings">Kevin Jennings</a></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-field-blog-video field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="197" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/pczS3a4F9X8" width="350"></iframe></div></div></div> Tue, 07 Mar 2017 20:18:36 +0000 Kids In The House 49681 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/having-a-transgender-child#comments Get Kids in the House - Meet Shayla and Kevin https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/get-kids-in-the-house-meet-shayla-and-kevin <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/shayla_and_kevin.jpg" width="640" height="427" alt="" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p>These two siblings are looking for a loving home where they can remain together.   Shayla is a happy child that enjoys playing with dolls, coloring, and doing arts and crafts. She is very friendly and makes friends anywhere she goes! Kevin is a typical boy that is very active and enjoys playing sports and being outside.</p> <p>Please SHARE this post to increase Shayla and Kevin’s chance of finding their family</p> <p>If you or anyone you know would like more information about adopting Shayla and Kevin, please contact:</p> <p>Mari Nakayama</p> <p>Department of Children and Family Services</p> <p>909-802-1411<br /> nakaym@dcfs.lacounty.gov</p> </div></div></div> Thu, 16 Feb 2017 08:00:00 +0000 Kids In The House 50237 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/get-kids-in-the-house-meet-shayla-and-kevin#comments Get Kids in the House: Meet Destiny https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/get-kids-in-the-house-meet-destiny <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/screen_shot_2017-01-03_at_11.13_0.jpg" width="400" height="603" alt="kids waiting for adoption" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p style="text-align: center;"><strong>Meet Destiny</strong></p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;">Destiny is eager to having a fresh start, having a new bedroom, new school, and making new friends!</p> <p style="text-align: center;">She likes to laugh and smile and thinks of herself as being pretty funny!</p> <p style="text-align: center;">Being the girlie girl that she is, her favorite color is pink and likes to jump rope.</p> <p style="text-align: center;">Destiny enjoys water coloring, drawing, playing with “monster high” dolls, and watching “Doc McStuffin”.</p> <p style="text-align: center;">Destiny wants more than anything a committed family, that will can provide her with structure, guidance, patience, and love, because every heart blooms with love!</p> <p> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>If you or anyone you know would like more information about adopting Destiny, please contact:</strong></p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;">Stephanie Clancy<br /> <strong>Heart Gallery Los Angeles</strong> clancs@dcfs.lacounty.gov<br /> (909) 802-1411</p> <p style="text-align: center;">#GetKidsintheHouse</p> <p style="text-align: center;">Resources on becoming an adoptive parent:</p> <p style="text-align: center;">Adopt US Kids - Adoption &amp; foster care expert, Jill Boyer, MSW</p> <p style="text-align: center;">Requirements to adopt a child - Adoptive mom, Langka Treadwell</p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;">My daughter's identity as an adopted child - Priest, Jimmy Bartz</p> </div></div></div> Tue, 07 Feb 2017 08:00:00 +0000 Kids In The House 50137 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/get-kids-in-the-house-meet-destiny#comments FDA Gives New Recommendations on Pregnant and Breast Feeding Women and Fish https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/fda-gives-new-recommendations-on-pregnant-and-breast-feeding-women-and-fish <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/fish2_0.png" width="600" height="851" alt="" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p>Yesterday, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration and the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency issued advice geared toward helping women who are pregnant or may become pregnant, breastfeeding mothers and parents of young children make informed choices about which type of fish is healthy and safe to eat.  </p> <p>The FDA has categorized fish into 3 groups:</p> <ul> <li> “Best choices” (eat two to three servings a week or between 8-12 ounces max!)</li> <li> “Good choices” (eat one serving a week)</li> <li> “Fish to avoid”</li> </ul> <p>The study found that 50 percent of pregnant women surveyed ate fewer than 2 ounces a week, far less than the amount recommended.  This recommendation is now consistent with the 2015 - 2020 Dietary Guidelines for Americans.</p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com">Kids in the House CEO, Leanna Greene </a> states that “Search statistics from the site show that people are seeking guidance and clear direction on what are right choices about food and nutrition are during their pregnancy.  We know that parents really want to do the right thing when it comes to all aspects of their pre-natal care.”     </p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/expert/parenting-advice-from-sheryl-ross-md">Sherry A. Ross, MD Obstetrician</a> and Author of <a href="https://www.drsherry.com">she-ology. The Definitive Guide to Women's Intimate Health. </a>Period explains that, “Omega 3 fatty acids found in fish oil have great health benefits to the baby during pregnancy and the breastfeeding period.  Fish oil, particularly DHA, has a positive effect on brain and eye development in babies when taken by breastfeeding moms.”</p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/expert/parenting-advice-from-tanya-altmann-md-faap">Tanya Altmann, MD Pediatrician</a> and author of, <a href="http://www.drtanya.com">What to Feed Your Baby</a>  tells Kids In the House,  “I have specific recommendations on how to feed fish and how much starting around 6 months of age, in my book which is consistent with the new recommendations.  Fish are a healthy source of protein and fat for all ages.  Wild salmon is a great choice for babies and young children.  When you get infants used to the taste of fish early, and feed it regularly, they grow up to be older kids and adults who like fish.”  </p> <p> </p> <p>Not all physician’s agree with this new recommendation.  <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/all-parents/experts/introductions/meet-jay-gordon-md?qt-more_videos=1#qt-more_videos">Jay Gordon, MD Pediatrician</a> and author of <a href="http://drjaygordon.com">Good Food Today, Great Kids Tomorrow</a> says, “The FDA’s dietary fish guidelines are not even a “good start.”  They perpetuate the nutritional myth about fish being an “important source of protein” for children and pregnant women.  Fish may be a source of protein but it is far from an important protein-containing food.  The FDA acknowledges that all fish contain mercury and other toxic metals but stop far short of giving the most scientifically sound advice to pregnant women: eat very little fish, if any.  When a government statement includes tuna in their “best sources” one can tell that their staff scientists were not considering all available evidence.  If we had taken better care of our oceans, rivers and lakes, my recommendation might be different. But we have not protected those fish and seafood habitats from pollutants for many decades.  “Trendy” kids eating sushi 2-3 times a week with their parents are ingesting far too many potentially dangerous pollutants.  When doctors and government officials tell you to limit the amount of a certain type of food, perhaps zero is the best number.  Children and pregnant should not eat very much fish.”<br />   <br /> The FDA and the EPA state that pregnant women should completely avoid the following fish: tilefish from the Gulf of Mexico, shark, swordfish, orange roughy, bigeye tuna, marlin and king mackerel. If you do want to add fish to your pregnancy and breast feeding diet, the new guidelines make it easy.</p> <p>"These new guidelines offer a clear and easy chart that is an excellent tool for making safe and healthy choices when buying fish," says pediatrician <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/expert/parenting-advice-from-lisa-stern-md">Dr. Lisa Stern</a>, "90% of Americans who consume fish make choices from the Best category already. The real issue is that 50% of pregnant women and children are not eating fish at all."</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/fdachart.png" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;">Source: <a href="http://www.fda.gov/NewsEvents/Newsroom/PressAnnouncements/ucm537362.htm">http://www.fda.gov/NewsEvents/Newsroom/PressAnnouncements/ucm537362.htm</a></p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p> </p> <p> </p> </div></div></div> Fri, 20 Jan 2017 08:00:00 +0000 Kids In The House 50177 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/fda-gives-new-recommendations-on-pregnant-and-breast-feeding-women-and-fish#comments 4 Reasons Why You Should Mother like a Kangaroo https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/4-reasons-why-you-should-mother-like-a-kangaroo <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/web-baby-wearing.jpg" width="600" height="400" alt="" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/pregnancy/complications/nicu/how-can-parents-best-bond-their-baby-nicu">Kangaroo Mother Care</a> is a method of care for <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/baby/premature-babies/most-common-issues-facing-premature-babies">premature infants</a> that focuses on skin-to-skin contact between mother and infant. Similar to a mother kangaroo carrying their baby in their pouch, KMC directs mothers to keep their babies close to their bodies as much as possible. Outside of care for premies, KMC is know simply as <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/baby/premature-babies/the-benefits-and-recommendations-for-preemies-and-skin-to-skin">skin-to-skin contact</a>, which is one of the tenants of <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/toddler/communication/attachment-parenting/how-attachment-parenting-creates-independent-children">attachment parenting</a>. Here are 4 reasons why you should embrace skin-to-skin contact with your baby, even if they were born full developed or you are not interested in attachment parenting:</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/web-newborn-baby-3.jpg" style="width: 600px; height: 400px;" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p><strong>1. </strong>The first months of your baby’s life is the <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/baby/development-and-health/brain-development/secure-attachment-and-brain-development">most critical period of development</a>. Their brains are still forming, so the care they receive during this time is crucial for optimal brain development. This is especially true for the amygdala, located deep in the center of the brain and responsible for emotional learning, memory, and the nervous system. Skin-to-skin contact activates the amygdala and helps contributes to the <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/baby/bonding-and-communication/developing-good-attachment">development</a> of this important brain structure.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/web-newborn-baby.jpg" style="width: 600px; height: 399px;" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p><strong>2.</strong> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/toddler/communication/attachment-parenting/what-is-attachment-parenting">Holding your baby</a> has significant impact for several weeks after birth. A study from <a href="http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/139/1?current-issue=y">Pediatrics</a> shows that cuddling babies has a big effects on their contentment and ability to feed. Carrying your baby for extended periods of the day reduces symptoms of <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/baby/breastfeeding/mothers-diet/understanding-colic">colic</a> and fussiness that peaks around 6 weeks old. </p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/web-newborn-baby-2.jpg" style="width: 600px; height: 400px;" /></p> <p> </p> <p><strong>3.</strong> The immediate and long-term effects of <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/baby/premature-babies/the-benefits-and-recommendations-for-preemies-and-skin-to-skin">skin-to-skin contact</a> on premature infants. The preemies who experienced skin-to-skin had larger areas of gray matter in the brain and higher IQs. They also showed less propensity towards hyperactivity and aggression in school. This <a href="https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2016/12/161212155943.htm">study</a> indicates that <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/baby/premature-babies/preemies-and-kangaroo-care">Kangaroo Mother Care</a> had significant, long-lasting social and behavioral protective effects 20 years after the intervention.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/web-newborn-baby-1.jpg" style="width: 600px; height: 398px;" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p><b>4.</b> Studies on full-term babies and <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/baby/bonding-and-communication/bonding-with-your-newborn/importance-of-skin-to-skin-time-with">skin-to-skin contact</a> have found similar results. One <a href="http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/136/3/596">study</a> showed full-term babies who experienced skin-to-skin had better cardio-respiratory stability, breastfed more, and cried less.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>More resources on skin-to-skin contact</strong>:</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/baby/premature-babies/the-benefits-and-recommendations-for-preemies-and-skin-to-skin">The benefits and recommendations for preemies and skin-to-skin</a> - Pediatrician, <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/baby/premature-babies/the-benefits-and-recommendations-for-preemies-and-skin-to-skin"> Alan Greene, MD</a></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/pregnancy/childbirth/what-to-expect-right-after-the-baby-is-born">What to expect right after the baby is born</a> - Doula, <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/pregnancy/childbirth/what-to-expect-right-after-the-baby-is-born">Ana Paula Markel</a></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/toddler/communication/attachment-parenting/3-ways-to-form-healthy-attachment-to-your-baby">3 Ways to form healthy attachment to your baby</a> - Relationship + parenting expert, <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/toddler/communication/attachment-parenting/3-ways-to-form-healthy-attachment-to-your-baby">Wendy Walsh, PhD</a></p> </div></div></div> Fri, 06 Jan 2017 20:46:18 +0000 Kids In The House 50138 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/4-reasons-why-you-should-mother-like-a-kangaroo#comments 7 Reasons to Unplug https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/7-reasons-to-unplug <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/giphy-14_1.gif" width="800" height="800" alt="" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p>Smartphones and tablets aren't going away anytime soon and they're affecting our parenting. </p> <p>A recent study found that people with children spend an average of 9 hours and 22 minutes per day in front of a screen. Even though they spent a huge chunk of their day with a device, 78% of parents said they are modeling good media habits for their kids.</p> <p>It can be hard to admit having a technology addiction. A few minutes scrolling here and there doesn't seem too bad. But those minutes add up, leading to a lack of productivity or other negative effects. More importantly, the time spent with a screen in front of our kids could be time spent <em>with</em> our kids. Here are 7 reasons to unplug and 3 tips for taking a time-out from technology.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/giphy-16_0.gif" style="width: 540px; height: 389px;" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>1. Facebook is making you feel bad about yourself. </strong></p> <p>Here's the gist: Facebook isn't making EVERYONE feel bad, but it is making some of us feel awful. The reason? <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201512/the-real-reason-using-facebook-makes-you-feel-bad">Envy</a>. People tend to share a skewed version of themselves on the Internet--flattering, positive updates instead of negative ones. So if your life feels like it isn't measuring up to your online circle, remember that you're only seeing a small slice of their life...or take a long-term break from your Facebook account...or delete it all entirely.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/giphy-18_1.gif" style="width: 480px; height: 270px;" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>2. FOMO</strong></p> <p>If you have a teenager, we likely don't have to tell you that FOMO stands for 'Fear of Missing Out'. The acronym is catchy, sure, but what it's really describing is a <a href="http://www.independent.co.uk/voices/comment/is-fomo-depriving-us-of-our-ability-to-exist-in-the-present-and-take-pleasure-in-the-here-and-now-8449677.html">phenomena</a> of heavy social media users craving information and access to unique experiences. We are trying to pay attention to EVERYTHING, and in exchange, we are missing out on the present. </p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/giphy-19.gif" style="width: 600px; height: 341px;" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>3. Solitude</strong></p> <p>Speaking of the present, technology has eroded our solitary time. While scrolling through your news feed may feel like relaxation time, your brain thinks it is anything but. If you're looking for true rest, it is better to take a walk without any of your devices than spend a half an hour cruising through Instagram.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/giphy-20.gif" style="width: 500px; height: 500px;" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>5. Creation &gt; Consumption</strong></p> <p>It's lovely to look at beautiful images on social media. But the truth is that consuming others' work through a screen is a passive act, and it is taking up valuable time you could be using creating your own masterpieces. This is particuarly poignant for young tech users. If you have a child or teenager, ask them what they're attracted to in the social media accounts they follow, and if they'd like to pursue any of those activities themselves. It's good to appreciate creators on the internet, but it's better to be creating ourselves.</p> <p> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/giphy-21.gif" style="width: 300px; height: 200px;" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>6. Human connection</strong></p> <p>Part of the beauty of cell phones and the internet, and why we're so hooked on them, is their ability to connect us to the people we love the most. But communication is only 7% verbal and 93% non-verbal. Non-verbal communication is body language (55%) and tone of voice (38%). Texting and social media skip over the non-verbal communication, which is great for speed and long-distance, but takes a toll on delivering the right message or tone.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/giphy-22.gif" style="width: 454px; height: 337px;" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>7. "The first hour of the morning is the rudder of the day." - Henry Ward Beecher</strong></p> <p>You're not the only one who reaches for their phone when they first wake up, but here's why you should stop: the <a href="http://www.nature.com/nature/journal/v497/n7450_supp/full/497S13a.html">blue light </a>that cell phones cast are destructive to a healthy night of sleep. Artificial light prevents our bodies from producing the chemicals that make us tired, and instead leaves us feeling more awake. Interacting with our phones right before bed or immediately upon waking unsettle our body's natural rhythmns and may be the culprit of your groggy mood.</p> <p> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/giphy-15_0.gif" style="width: 400px; height: 220px;" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;">So, what now? <strong>Take a digital time-out. </strong></p> <p style="text-align: center;">1. Leave the phone at home and go out to dinner or for a walk.</p> <p style="text-align: center;">2. Schedule out time to put your phone on 'Do Not Disturb' mode for an hour. Bonus points if it's the first or last hour of the day.</p> <p style="text-align: center;">3. Choose an activity you may usually do on a phone or computer and do it without technology. Examples include reading a book(instead of your Kindle), listening to live music or an old tape you forgot about(instead of your Spotify), and writing letters to friends and family(instead of a text).</p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>More resources on managing technology in your home:</strong></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/technology-and-media/setting-limits/finding-balance-and-harmony-with-technology">Finding balance + harmony with technology</a> - Clinical psychologist &amp; author,<a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/technology-and-media/setting-limits/finding-balance-and-harmony-with-technology"> Shefali Tsabary, PhD</a></p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/technology-and-media/tv-and-screen-time/how-to-limit-tv-and-technology-in-your-home">How to limit TV and technology in your home</a> - Educational specialist, <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/technology-and-media/tv-and-screen-time/how-to-limit-tv-and-technology-in-your-home">Carolyn McWilliams, MA</a></p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/technology-and-media/technologys-effect-on-your-childs-communication-skills">Technology's effect on your child's communication skills</a> - Clinical psychologist,<a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/technology-and-media/technologys-effect-on-your-childs-communication-skills"> Chris Fulton, PhD</a></p> <p> </p> </div></div></div> Tue, 03 Jan 2017 04:46:01 +0000 Kids In The House 50124 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/7-reasons-to-unplug#comments The 10 Best Family Movies of 2016 https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/the-10-best-family-movies-of-2016 <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/10-best-movies_0.jpg" width="1200" height="1197" alt="" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p>Quality family time in the modern age can be hard to achieve. That's where movie night comes in. Movies can be a great jumping-off point for important conversations on issues and values. Zootopia can become a discussion on the negative effects of sterotyping. Star Wars can be an entryway into exploring your child's interest in science. Ask your kid how they felt about how a character handled a certain situation. Ask if they would make the same choice. The questions are endless once you get going! Check out one of our favorite family movies from the year, grab some popcorn, and get ready to bond. </p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/giphy-2_0.gif" style="width: 480px; height: 199px;" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>Moana</strong>, Ages 6+</p> <p>If you have kids and haven't already seen Moana, go fix that now! It is a Disney classic in every sense--beautiful visuals, catchy music, and a heartwarming story centered on a brave adolescent character tackling the obstacles laid in front of her.</p> <p style="text-align: justify;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/giphy-13_0.gif" style="width: 600px; height: 338px;" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>Finding Dory</strong>, Ages 6+</p> <p>Need we say more?</p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/giphy-11_0.gif" style="width: 367px; height: 197px;" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>Long Way North</strong>, ages 8+</p> <p>Bonus points for introducing your kid to a foreign film! Long Way North tells the story of a teenager who sets out to find her missing explorer grandfather in late 19th century Russia. Like all good adventures, this one comes with lots of valuable lessons for our kids.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/giphy-8_1.gif" style="width: 500px; height: 209px;" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>Zootopia</strong>, Ages 8+</p> <p>A clever tale with a powerful message about stereotyping. Chances are your little one already dragged you to see this, but this is one film we don't mind watching over and over again.</p> <p style="text-align: justify;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/giphy-12_0.gif" style="width: 480px; height: 240px;" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>The Jungle Book</strong>, Ages 9+</p> <p>This Disney remake has some intense scenes that aren't suitable for all kids, but it is a visual masterpiece with strong themes of nontraditional families and friendship.</p> <p style="text-align: justify;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/giphy-7_0.gif" style="width: 480px; height: 202px;" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>Hidden Figures</strong>, Ages 10+</p> <p>This movie and the real-life story it is based on could not have come at better times. It is full of great role models, themes like integrity and teamwork, and a reminder that we all have the power to change history.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/giphy-6_0.gif" style="width: 480px; height: 206px;" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>Arrival</strong>, Ages 11+</p> <p>A sci-fi drama focused on communicating with aliens as opposed to destroying them, Arrival is a poignant story about what happens when we listen to others. </p> <p style="text-align: justify;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/giphy-5_0.gif" style="width: 480px; height: 201px;" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>Hunt for the Wilderpeople</strong>, Ages 12+</p> <p>A heartwarming coming-of-age adventure set in New Zealand that promotes friendship and teamwork, this is a must-see movie(with or without kids)!</p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/giphy_0.gif" style="width: 480px; height: 196px;" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>Rogue One: A Star Wars Story</strong>, Ages 11+</p> <p>If your child is old enough, Rogue One is a great way to introduce them to the world of Star Wars. The latest installment in the Star Wars stories features a diverse cast with strong role models for both genders. </p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="https://media.giphy.com/media/3oz8xwpOBlKYiq2pyg/giphy.gif" /></p> <p><strong>La La Land, </strong>Ages 13+</p> <p>It's not a common occurence for both parent and teen to enjoy the same movie, but La La Land's old-time Hollywood feel and messages about love and following your dreams might just be your ticket to sharing movie night with your teen.</p> <p> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>More on family bonding:</strong></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/all-parents/family-life/family-time/affordable-family-time-activities">Affordable family-time activities </a>- Parent coach, Jamee Tenzer, PCC</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/toddler/play/activities-sports-and-classes/fun-family-activities">Family fun activities</a> - Founder of TheFabMom.com, Jill Simonian</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/all-parents/values-and-beliefs/religion-and-spirituality/importance-of-family-bonding">Creating a close bond with your family</a> - Author, Maryanne Williamson</p> </div></div></div> Thu, 29 Dec 2016 08:00:00 +0000 Kids In The House 50120 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/the-10-best-family-movies-of-2016#comments 10 Parenting Resolutions for 2017 https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/10-parenting-resolutions-for-2017 <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/web-confetti_1.jpg" width="600" height="400" alt="" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong>"Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right." </strong>- Oprah Winfrey</p> <p>It's time again for us to say goodbye to one year and embrace another. This year we resolve to become better parents, and here are the top 10 resolutions we're focusing on:</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/webistock-182772682.jpg" style="width: 600px; height: 407px;" /></p> <p> </p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p><strong>1. Less screen time</strong></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/web-girl-phone_1.jpg" style="width: 600px; height: 400px;" /></p> <p>Technology is built into every little bit of our lives now. It is feasibly possible to spend most to all of your day with a blue screen in front of you or nearby. There is still a lot to learn, but <a href="http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1651-2227.2008.00831.x/full">researchers</a> have found language delays in children who watch more television. How can we, as parents, find a balance between a changing world and the developmental needs of our children? Start with advice from leading experts in technology or mindful parenting:</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/technology-and-media/setting-limits/finding-balance-and-harmony-with-technology" style="text-align: center;">Finding balance + harmony with technology</a><span style="text-align: center;"> - Pyschologist + therapist, Dr. Shefali Tsabary</span></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/technology-and-media/tv-and-screen-time/how-to-limit-tv-and-technology-in-your-home">How to limit TV + technology in your home</a> - Educationalist specialist, Carolyn McWilliams, MA</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/technology-and-media/technologys-effect-on-your-childs-communication-skills">Technology's effect on your child's communication skills</a> - Clinical pyschologist, Dr. Chris Fulton</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/technology-and-media/internet/when-parents-are-outsmarted-by-their-teens-and-technology">When parents are outsmarted by their teen's technology</a> - Regional Director of Common Sense Media, Dr. Yalda T. Uhls</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/technology-and-media/facebook-and-social-networks/how-to-stay-on-top-of-what-technology">How to stay on top of what technology your kids are using</a> - National Cyber Security Expert, Theresa M. Payton</p> <p> </p> <p><strong>2. More listening</strong></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/istock-514729704.jpg" style="width: 600px; height: 400px;" /></strong></p> <p>Listening to others is the backbone of every relationship. As a parent, we must teach our children how to effectively listen to others, but we must also continually practice listening ourselves. Learn how to become a better listener and pass empathy skills down to your kids with leading psychologists and neurologists:</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/parenting-teens/talking-with-your-teen/getting-kids-to-open-up-by-active-listening">Getting kids to open up with active listening</a> - Neurologist, Dr. Judy Willis<br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/all-parents/parenting/communicating-with-children/how-to-listen-effectively">How to listen effectively</a> - Clinical psychologist + author, Dr. Lee Hausner<br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/parenting-teens/talking-with-your-teen/keeping-communication-open-by-listening-to-your">Keeping communication open by listening to your children</a> - Psychologist + author, Dr. Edwin A. Locke<br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/parenting-teens/talking-with-your-teen/importance-of-listening-to-children-without-judgment">Importance of listening to children without judgment</a> - Family therapist, Gila Brown<br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/all-parents/family-life/family-time/how-to-practice-empathic-listening-with-kids">How to practice empathic listening with kids </a>- Author, Dr. Roman Krznaric</p> <p><strong>3. Create new experiences</strong></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/web-istock-504751292.jpg" style="width: 600px; height: 400px;" /></p> <p> </p> <p>Every parent knows that a solid routine can make family life so much easier, but it’s important to shake things up every once in a while. Children need exposure to new foods, people, and places. This is easier said than done—especially when it comes to food! Here is some of our favorite advice for getting a picky eater to try new foods:</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/preschooler/food-and-nutrition/picky-eaters/how-get-picky-eater-try-new-food">How to get a picky eater to try new food</a> - Parent educator, Elizabeth Pantley<br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/preschooler/food-and-nutrition/picky-eaters/how-deal-picky-eaters">How to deal with your child's picky eating</a> - RIE parenting expert, Janet Lansbury<br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/preschooler/food-and-nutrition/picky-eaters/the-biological-necessity-of-picky-eater-syndrome">The biological necessity of picky eater syndrome </a>- Dr. Alan Greene</p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p><strong>4. Take more photos of your kids</strong></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/web-istock-518066178.jpg" style="width: 600px; height: 400px;" /></p> <p>They are only this age once. Life moves quickly, and it’s so important to stay in the moment, but don’t forget to grab a few photographs every now and then. You’ll appreciate them later.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/all-parents/family-life/family-time/how-get-best-photos-your-kids">How to get the best photos of your kids</a> - TV host + journalist, Mark Steines<br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/all-parents/family-life/family-time/benefit-of-annual-family-photo-shoots">Benefit of annual family photo shoots</a> - Writer + editor at People magazing, Ulrica Wihlborg</p> <p><strong>5. Read more</strong></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><strong><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/web-istock-522453602.jpg" style="width: 600px; height: 400px;" /></strong></p> <p>The benefits of reading aloud to kids are innumerable. Establishing the foundation of reading skills for your children will positively affect them for the rest of their lives. Listen to these great tips from pyschologists and teachers on how to instill the love of reading in your child:</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/preschooler/communication/bonding/the-importance-of-reading-aloud-to-kids">The importance of reading aloud to kids</a> - Teacher + author, Steve Reifman<br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/special-needs/learning-disabilities/how-to-choose-a-reading-program">How to choose a reading program</a> - Neuropsychologist, Dr. Karen Schiltz<br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/preschooler/communication/talking/reading-foundations-natural-interactions">Teaching babies to read through natural interactions</a> - Educational psychologist, Dr. Jane Healy<br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/elementary/education/learning-styles/tips-for-teaching-a-child-to-read">Tips for teaching a child to read</a> - Educational therapist, Sasha Borenstein <br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/health-and-development/sleep/why-books-audio-books-are-great-before-bed">Why books + audio books are great before bed</a> - Parent educator, Elizabeth Pantley</p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p><strong>6. Make time for self-care</strong></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/web-istock-521610064.jpg" style="width: 600px; height: 400px;" /></p> <p>The parenting life is a stressful one! Don't forget to care for yourself. It's when we make sure to recharge and center ourselves that we can be the best parents for our children.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/all-parents/family-life/working-parents/advice-self-care-and-date-night-every-mom">Advice for self-care + date night</a> - Lifestyle expert, Samantha Ettus<br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/activities/pressure-and-over-scheduling/finding-space-day-connect-oneself">Finding space in the day to connect with oneself </a>- Clinical psychologist, Dr. Shefali Tsabary <br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/all-parents/family-life/stay-at-home-parents/getting-time-off-from-being-a-stay-at-home-parent">Getting time off from being a stay-at-home parent</a> - Stay-at-home dad, Scott Lenz</p> <p style="text-align: center;"> </p> <p><strong>7. Get outside</strong></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/web-istock-515278306.jpg" style="width: 600px; height: 400px;" /></p> <p>We are our children's primary role model. Show your kids the value of an active lifestyle by getting outdoors and exploring! Family hikes, trips to the park, or simple walks around the neighborhood help the body, mind, and spirit.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/all-parents/green-living/tips-making-nature-art-your-children">Making nature art with your children</a> - Blogger, Shiva Rose<br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/all-parents/nutrition/vitamins-and-supplements/benefits-and-recommended-use-vitamin-d">Benefits + recommended use of Vitamin D</a> - Dr. Alan Greene<br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/elementary/activities/other/top-tips-camping-kids">Top tips for camping with kids</a> - CEO of Red Tricycle, Jacqui Boland <br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/health-and-development/exercise/how-much-exercise-should-kids-get-each-week">How much exercise should kids get a week? </a>- Psychiatrist, Dr. John Ratey </p> <p><strong>8. Build community of parents</strong></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/web0istock-490134054.jpg" style="width: 600px; height: 400px;" /></p> <p>Parenting can be an isolating experience, especially if you don't have friends with kids. Build friendships with other parents through playdates, online communities, or gatherings through social platforms like Meetup.com.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/preschooler/friends-and-siblings/making-friends/play-dates-and-interactions-with-your-childs-friends">Playdates + interactions with your child's friend's parents</a> - Pyschologist, Dr. David Palmiter<br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/baby/health-and-fitness-for-mom/isolation/the-importance-of-friends-in-the-early-days-of-motherhood">The importance of friends in the early days of motherhood</a> - Blogger, Heather Gibbs Flett<br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/social-life/friends/importance-of-friends-for-children-and-adults">Importance of friends for children and adults</a> - Psychiatrist Dr. Edward Hallowell</p> <p><strong>9. Play more</strong></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/web-istock-539350870.jpg" style="width: 600px; height: 457px;" /></p> <p>Unstructured play or "free play" is one of the most invaluable tools to our children's social, cognitive, and emotional development. Check out these get tips for understanding why play is important and how to encourage your child to play:</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/elementary/activities/benefits/benefits-of-unstructured-playhttp://www.kidsinthehouse.com/elementary/activities/benefits/benefits-of-unstructured-play">Benefits of unstructured play</a> - Educational psychologist, Dr. Jane Healy<br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/toddler/play/benefits/what-parents-need-know-about-developmental-play">What parents need to know about developmental play </a>- Psychologist, Julie Wright<br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/toddler/play/benefits/getting-kids-to-play-by-themselves">Getting kids to play by themselves</a> - Behaviorist, Nicole Hill, MA<br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/preschooler/behavior-and-discipline/biting-and-hitting/encouraging-good-behavior-on-play-dates">Encouraging good behavior on play dates</a> - Psychologist, Dr. Joel Haber</p> <p><strong>10. Continue learning</strong></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" src="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/web-istock-623884570.jpg" style="width: 600px; height: 400px;" /></p> <p>Parenting is an experience like no other. It requires us to learn new things constantly - from pregnancy to college. The life of a parent is unexpected and challenging, so remember to turn to experts when confronted with a difficult question. Our video library is a great place to start, with over 9,000 videos from 500 doctors and parenting experts. </p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/baby/health-and-fitness-for-mom/isolation/learning-from-other-moms">Learning from other moms</a> - Blogger, Heather Gibbs Flett</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/all-parents/parenting/setting-limits/admitting-your-mistakes-to-improve-your-childs-choices">Admitting your mistakes to improve your child's choices</a> - Educator, Sondra Santos Drahos<br /> <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/all-parents/family-life/working-parents/how-busy-working-parents-can-stay-involved">How busy working parents can stay involved</a> - Head of School, Reveta Bowers</p> <p> </p> <p> </p> </div></div></div> Tue, 27 Dec 2016 08:00:00 +0000 Kids In The House 50111 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/10-parenting-resolutions-for-2017#comments Fundamentals of Attachment Parenting https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/fundamentals-of-attachment-parenting <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/blog-fundamentals.jpg" width="631" height="362" alt="attachment parenting infant, attachment baby, attachment parenting, what is attachment, attachment theory, how to parenting, parenting styles, parenting tips, attachment parenting tips, parenting, attachment, baby, bedsharing, breastfeeding, parenting advice, attachment, kids in the house, baby wearing" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p>When your bundle of joy comes along, it is inevitable that a bundle of parenting advice will follow shortly after. While so many opinions and ideologies can be overwhelming, it is worth taking a look at the concept of Attachment Parenting. This theory operates on a framework of six stages for the first six years of life, each based on fulfilling a child’s need for attachment so fully that a preoccupation for this type of intimacy does not form. Renowned author and psychologist Dr. Gordon Neufeld, PhD. spoke with Kids in the House about the finer details of accomplishing successful attachment parenting.</p> <p><strong>Stage 1:  The Need to Be With</strong></p> <p>It is a frequent misconception that attachment parenting involves being physically close to your child at all times. In actuality, this only represents the tenets of stage one.</p> <p>“In the first year of life, the child does attach through wanting to be ‘with’-- to be in sight, in smell, in hearing, in touch,” Neufeld explains. A bond is formed through this type of contact, which can be achieved through simply holding your baby, co-sleeping, or just spending as much time as possible nearby.</p> <p><strong>Stage 2: The Need to Be Like</strong></p> <p>With each year of life, the type of attachment needed is built upon and becomes more complex. Stage two centers around your child’s need to be like you in terms of mannerisms, speech patterns, and other characteristic patterns they can pick up on. Neufeld deems this “the key to language acquisition” and “stamping our form on their behavior.”</p> <p>Essentially, the first stage gives your child a trust that then transcends into their desire to simulate your behavioral and speech patterns.</p> <p><strong>Stage 3: The Need to Belong</strong></p> <p>“By the third year, a child becomes preoccupied with belonging and becomes preoccupied with loyalty, to be ‘on the same side as,’ which is a different way of closeness,” says Neufeld.</p> <p>This need, Neufeld says, is what a child’s obedience stems from. A child who feels adequately close to his or her parent physically, in behavior, and in belonging responds by wanting to please them and meet their expectations.</p> <p><strong>Stage 4: The Need to Matter</strong></p> <p>Neufeld describes the fourth stage as the one where a “huge quest for significance, to matter, because he feels close now when he is dear to those that he is attached to.” It is at this time, according to the attachment parenting theory, that a child will feel secure enough in his or her attachment to their parent that they now have the confidence to separate.</p> <p>If the bond between parent and child seems to the child to be superficial, the attachment parenting belief is that the child will be too fixated on achieving a genuine closeness to extend themselves into personal goals.</p> <p><strong>Stage 5: The Need for Emotional Intimacy</strong></p> <p>“If everything unfolds properly, the fifth year is incredible. The limbic system, the command center, or the amygdala of the command center, the emotional brain pulls out all of its stops and the child gives his heart to whomever he is attached to,” Neufeld says. This stage is crucial, he continues, because it functions as the foundation for building friendships and even marriages. It also determines the outcome of the parenting on a holistic level, because, Neufeld says, “We cannot parent children whose hearts we do not have.”</p> <p>At this point, the attachment parenting theory states that the child will reciprocate the love and closeness he or she was given during his or her earliest years by turning it back towards whomever a bond has formed with-- whether it be parents, grandparents, or even pets.</p> <p><strong>Stage 6: The Need for Psychological Intimacy</strong></p> <p>This stage represents the time in which a child desires to share all of their thoughts, emotions, and secrets with their parents. With all other aspects of attachment fulfilled, the child is left with a need for psychological intimacy. This level of closeness is one which is retained throughout their entire life.</p> <p>To see a full list of our videos on <a href="http://bit.ly/1qMUxht">Attachment Parenting</a></p> <p>For more information on Attachment Parenting, check out these videos from our experts:</p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/baby/bonding-and-communication/developing-good-attachment">Developing Good Attachment</a> - Gordon Neufeld, PhD</p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/toddler/communication/attachment-parenting/what-attachment-parenting-means">What Attachment Parenting Means</a> - Suchada Eickemeyer, Blogger</p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/all-parents/parenting/parenting-styles/six-stages-of-attachment">Six Stages of Attachment </a>- Susan Stiffelman, MFT</p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/toddler/behavior-and-discipline/separation-anxiety/can-children-be-too-attached-parents">Can Children Be Too Attached? </a>- Gordon Neufeld, PhD</p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/baby/bonding-and-communication/attachment-parenting/the-science-behind-attachment-parenting">The Science Behind Attachment Parenting</a> - Aimee Wheeler, PsyD</p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/toddler/communication/attachment-parenting/how-attachment-parenting-creates-independent-children">How Attachment Parenting Creates Independent Children </a>- Wendy Walsh, PhD</p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/toddler/communication/attachment-parenting/the-misconceptions-about-attachment-parenting">The Misconceptions About Attachment Parenting</a> - Suchada Eickemeyer, Blogger</p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/toddler/communication/attachment-parenting/what-attachment-looks-over-time">What Attachment Looks Like Over Time </a>- Julie Wright, MFT</p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/all-parents/family-life/twins-and-multiples/can-i-practice-attachment-parenting-twins">Can I Practice Attachment Parenting with Twins?</a> - Gina Osher, Blogger</p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/toddler/communication/bonding/why-you-need-to-understand-attachment-theory">Why You Need to Understand Attachment Theory</a> - Julie Wright, MFT</p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/all-parents/parenting/parenting-styles/self-reliance-vs-attachment-parenting">Self-Reliance Verse Attachment Parenting</a> - Alanna Levine, MD</p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/baby/sleep/co-sleeping/how-anthropological-study-informs-attachment-parenting">How Anthropological Study Informs Attachment Parenting</a> - James McKenna, MD</p> <p> </p> </div></div></div><div class="field field-name-field-blog-video field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="197" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/567KUm_osYw" width="350"></iframe></div></div></div> Tue, 13 Dec 2016 21:57:50 +0000 Kids In The House 49664 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/blogs/kids-in-the-house/fundamentals-of-attachment-parenting#comments