My advice for divorced or step families is basically to consider the child first. Most important thing is to consider is the child. When my husband and I got married, he had a 5-year-old daughter at the time, now she’s 9, and my son was 8 at the time, now he’s 12. After the wedding ceremony, the little girl came up to me and hugged me and said, “Mommy.” And I said to her, in a very loving way, I said, “Sweetheart, let’s come up with another special name for me. You have a mommy. We never want to hurt your mommy’s feelings and I never want you to think you have anything else but your own, real mommy to love. I am here to love you in very different ways. I will be your best friend. But you only have one mommy and we need to respect her.” This has led to a wonderful relationship with myself and my husband’s ex-wife. One day she was standing across a room with her and a little girl that was one of my dancers, pointed to her and said, “Is that your sister?” And I said to her, “No, she’s my step daughter.” “No, she’s your sister.” I said, “No, honey, she’s my step daughter.” “No, not the little one. The mother. She’s your sister. Think about it. You share her.” And in that moment I had a realization and such a compassion and empathy for this mother that could not be with her child 100% of time. She had to share her with me. So I had a conversation with her and I told her, “I want you to know that I will always respect your parenting styles. I will always be your daughter’s friend, but you will always be the mom and I want you to feel safe with that.”