Ben's Story

See Bullied Children's video on Ben's Story... | So you either go and tell a teacher – who cares if they call you a snitch? Who cares if they don’t like you more? You tell them. At least it’s going to stop. Or even if you don’t tell a teacher or even if you just tell your friends, it’s good. So that’s my story.
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So I started being bullied when I was 5-years-old, the first year of proper school. And that wasn’t even when people knew me. The first day of school I went in happy, just as a little kid. And it all just started to progress and to progress. One day when I was just 5-years-old a kid decided that he didn’t like me. He didn’t enjoy that I was out there playing with my friends. So he decided to get me, put me against the wall and bang me really hard even with just 5 years old. And that really affects little kid. And people don’t understand. Even at that age, things can really affect people’s lives, how they want to go to school. And my bullying carried on the next year and the year after that and the year after that. The same people, the same reasons, because I didn’t like football, and I wasn’t the normal kid. I liked to act and think. And they didn’t like that. People can’t understand that kids, I’m the perfect, oh I’m sporty, I like this-that. Kids aren’t nice sometimes. They’re really horrible. People called names after names. Horrible things. Things that have lasted for me now, even when I’m over my bullying. And from being so young, it doesn’t affect me now. It’s affected how I’ve grown up as a kid because I’ve had to experience how to handle and get through things. When I was finally about 10, it stopped for a while because I told my parents. And everyone needs to tell someone, because if you don’t tell someone you’re just going to go down a spiral of getting worse and worse. And you won’t be able to handle it. So I told my parents. And they told the school. And they told them to stop. And one kid, who was the only one, he was just a follower, he actually stood up and said, yeah, we were doing that. So bullies should know what they’re doing and they should acknowledge that it’s wrong. It’s not right to tease the kid, hurt a kid, because they’re not like you, because they’re not your best friend. It’s not right. And even when that stopped – that was when I was physically and emotionally bullied. When I got into, when I was 12, when I moved schools, I finally had a new friend group. A friend group that I trusted. A friend group that I was a friend. And then one second the friend group broke. And that’s the bad thing about friend groups. They started to cyber bully me. And cyber bullying is a big thing. And people don’t realize, because they’re not in front of you, it doesn’t mean it’s not going to affect you. Words people say are words, they’re there. It’s not as if it came out their mouth. It’s even worse. Because they’re not thinking about what they’re saying. It’s online. Who cares? Well people do care. It affects the person who’s being told you’re an idiot. No one likes you. Why do you even speak, because no one cares. I hate you. Let’s make a chat. And then they made a chat about me, a group message just to talk about how much they hate me. How much they don’t like me. All the things that I do that are just normal for me that they don’t like. How Ben is this-that-horrible. And that really affected me. Because my best friend was in that chat and my best friend was one of my only friends that had stayed true to me. And he told me yes, the chat is all about you. And they’ve made it. And they’ve talked about you. He sent me screen shots of what they said. Horrible, horrible things. So I showed the teacher. And that got dealt with. But it still affects me because we’re all kind of always seeing each other in school because we can’t help it. My best friend is friends with the person who bullied me the most, and that’s hard. And even when you’re over it, you have to get over it. Because if you don’t get over it then it’s not going to stop. You have to make it stop. Otherwise it’s not going to work. You’re just going to be crying every night, not knowing what to do. What’s wrong with you? Why do people not like you? So you have to find a way to get out of it. It doesn’t matter if it’s what you like, who you like, what type of things you like to play, who your friends are, you’ve got to find your own way to get out of it. And my way of getting out of it was through acting and singing, my passions and what have ended up to be my talents, the things that have ended up making me go more forward in life to think that I can make for me. And they’ve really helped. And now I have friends. And I’m not bullied anymore. People can’t bully me because they know even though I don’t like football I can stand up for myself now, because I know how, because I know that if they bully me they know that they’re not going to get a boy who stood there, take it. They’re not. It doesn’t mean you have to hit them. It doesn’t mean you have to be horrible to them back. You’ve got to stand up for yourself and say no, that’s not right. You’re being horrible. And I’m not taking it. So you either go and tell a teacher – who cares if they call you a snitch? Who cares if they don’t like you more? You tell them. At least it’s going to stop. Or even if you don’t tell a teacher or even if you just tell your friends, it’s good. So that’s my story.

See Bullied Children's video on Ben's Story... | So you either go and tell a teacher – who cares if they call you a snitch? Who cares if they don’t like you more? You tell them. At least it’s going to stop. Or even if you don’t tell a teacher or even if you just tell your friends, it’s good. So that’s my story.

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