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Instilling self-pride and self-confidence

Oh goodness! It is so important to tell our daughters how beautiful they are. There is not a woman on this planet who steps out of house and doesn´t compare herself to another woman. Every last one of us wants to feel beautiful. And that, there is no difference when it comes to our little girls. It is great that we are constantly talking to them about how to be strong. It is great that we are telling them that they need to be smart, that they need to be able to go toe to toe with boys and be these incredible human beings. But a part of being an incredible human being is feeling good about yourself. And it is important to tell these children, particularly little girls, when you fix your hair and you feel confident, have on clothes that make you feel comfortable and make you square your shoulders and hold your chin up, there is nothing more powerful than that, than feeling good about yourself. It is not about how other people see you. It is about how you see yourself. And when you are constantly telling a little girl you are beautiful, she understands why she is beautiful. Let her know that her hair is lovely, that she has beautiful skin, that she is so strong and powerful when she runs and looks graceful when she does it. These are things that make a little girl square her shoulders and feel good about herself and I think that is important.

Denene Millner, Bestselling Author & Founder of MyBrownBaby, shares advice for parents on how to best instill self-pride and confidence in your daughter


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Denene Millner

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New York Times best-selling author Denene Millner is a hotly sought after award-winning journalist whose insightful and captivating pieces have secured her foothold in the entertainment, parenting and book publishing industries. Millner spent the last decade working as a columnist, contributing editor and blogger for Parenting, a national magazine for which she provided witty, engaging, mom-to-mom advice on ethics and etiquette in everything from childrearing and marriage to work and friendship. Currently, she also is the founder and editor of, a critically acclaimed, award-winning blog that examines parenting and motherhood through the multi-cultural experience. Millner frequently contributes as an entertainment writer for Essence, the most well-read and respected magazine for African American women, and has written for a plethora of national publications and prestigious websites, including Parenting, HealthEbony, JetHeart & SoulReal Health, Money, iVillage,, TodayMoms, and The Root, among others. Her extensive television experience includes regular appearances on the The Today Show, CBS Early ShowThe Nate Berkus Show, HLN, CNN, MSNBC, VH1, and the Rachel Ray show. Millner also is the author of 21 books. The former political reporter and entertainment journalist lives in the Atlanta area with her husband and their two daughters.

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