Disciplining children with respect

Child Therapist Douglas Green, MFT, shares advice for parents on the best method for disciplining your child without hurting his or her spirit, and without punishing them
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Disciplining children with respect

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How do I discipline my child without hurting their spirit? A lot of parents confuse punishment and discipline. Punishment is a negative consequence for an action. Discipline comes from the same word root as disciple. It means teaching. And the difference is if you discipline your child, you are not just punishing them because you are actually teaching something at the same time. And that will build their spirit. Now, if your kid does something bad and you hit them with a stick, what you are going to have taught them is to be afraid of you and maybe afraid of sticks. But if you use this as a chance to teach them something really important, you will have accomplished something great. Let´s say Billy punches his little brother Sam. You could just punish Billy and accomplish that or you could use this as a chance to get Billy to understand that Sam is hurting to understand why it´s important not to hit people and get a chance to deal with his anger in a more effective way. That´s true discipline and just think how much you will accomplish through just one punch.

Child Therapist Douglas Green, MFT, shares advice for parents on the best method for disciplining your child without hurting his or her spirit, and without punishing them

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Douglas Green, MFT

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Douglas Green left a successful career as a writer and director of film, stage and television to become a Psychotherapist, specializing in helping children and teenagers live lives they can be proud of.  He has a degree in Drama Therapy, and uses creative active techniques often in his work.  He has extensive experience in working with numerous childhood issues, such as ADHD, autism, Asperger's, depression, anxiety, and recovery from physical, sexual, and emotional Abuse.  He works at two offices, one in Woodland Hills, CA and one in West Los Angeles, CA, and is an Adjunct Professor at the Chicago School of Professional Psychology.

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How do I discipline my child without hurting their spirit? A lot of parents confuse punishment and discipline. Punishment is a negative consequence for an action. Discipline comes from the same word root as disciple. It means teaching. And the difference is if you discipline your child, you are not just punishing them because you are actually teaching something at the same time. And that will build their spirit. Now, if your kid does something bad and you hit them with a stick, what you are going to have taught them is to be afraid of you and maybe afraid of sticks. But if you use this as a chance to teach them something really important, you will have accomplished something great. Let´s say Billy punches his little brother Sam. You could just punish Billy and accomplish that or you could use this as a chance to get Billy to understand that Sam is hurting to understand why it´s important not to hit people and get a chance to deal with his anger in a more effective way. That´s true discipline and just think how much you will accomplish through just one punch.