One of the best tools that parents have to try and protect their kids from drug abuse is the idea that you set a goal and you reward the completion of that goal. We spend so much time as parents, looking at our kids trying to figure out what they are doing wrong, why don't we spend some time to try and figure out what they are doing right. When you develop a goal, set the goal, and have a defined reward that the kid will get if they reach the goal. By definition, that means that you need to have a list of consequences which will come into play if they don't make the goal, but parent who taught us this, here is how she set it up: My daughter and I had an agreement. We check with each other every six months, if she hasn't used drugs or alcohol, I reward her with two tickets to a concert or show of her choice. One for her and one for her friend of choice. I drive her and her friend to the show. I pick them up. I don't speak while I'm driving, because that would cause her to be embarrassed, that's her reward. Her consequence if she doesn't meet her goal, she has to go to school for a full year without makeup on. That doesn't necessarily mean a lot to everyone, but to her it meant a lot. She went all the way through High School and College without using. When you have a goal, you are teaching your kids how to set them. That's the best way to teach them how to set a goal and reach them.