How two-way communication can avoid the need for spyware

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How two-way communication can avoid the need for spyware

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As a parent, the number one thing that I want my kid to know is my expectations of them and what my family values are as it relates to my expectations. Also, I need to know what my kid is doing. The only way for that to happen is to have two-way communication. If you are using spyware to monitor your kid's activities online, you are going to be cutting that line of communication. I've heard that phrase, trust but verify, way too many times as it relates to technology. If I trust my kid, I don't need to verify through technology. I verify by communicating with my kid. What did you do? Where have you been? Those kinds of things. If you use spyware as the first line of defense, then your child is going to stop communicating with you. That is going to disenfranchise the whole process of communicating with your child. That doesn't mean that those types of software don't have a place. They do have a place. They have a place where other things have failed to the process. It's more of a second, third, fourth line of defense; instead of the first line of defense.

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Lt. Joe Laramie

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In 2012 Lt. Joe Laramie (retired) formed Laramie Consulting, where he provides strategies and solutions for law enforcement and schools to address policy and training on a variety of technology and child exploration issues. He has 30 years of experience in the area of child protection, was certified Police Juvenile Specialist and taught D.A.R.E. for 15 years. From 2010-2011 he worked for the Missouri Attorney General as Adminstrator of Computer Forensics Lab, responsible for addressing online crimes against children, cyber bullying and human trafficking. In 2010, after 31 years of service he retired as a Lieutenant from the Glendale Police Department, where he was detached form 2003-2010 as Commander of the Missouri Interent Crimes Against Children (ICAC) Task Force. During his time with MO ICAC he served the National ICAC Task Force Program as liaison to Interent Safety Organizaitons such as Netsmartz, iKeepSafe, and Web Wise Kids, and was a member of the Executive Committee. He is a nationally known speaker on the topic of online crimes against children, technology safety, and cyber bullying. He holds a Bachelor of Science Degree in Criminal Justice Administration from Bellevue University and is a 2004 graduate of the FBI National Academy.

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As a parent, the number one thing that I want my kid to know is my expectations of them and what my family values are as it relates to my expectations. Also, I need to know what my kid is doing. The only way for that to happen is to have two-way communication. If you are using spyware to monitor your kid's activities online, you are going to be cutting that line of communication. I've heard that phrase, trust but verify, way too many times as it relates to technology. If I trust my kid, I don't need to verify through technology. I verify by communicating with my kid. What did you do? Where have you been? Those kinds of things. If you use spyware as the first line of defense, then your child is going to stop communicating with you. That is going to disenfranchise the whole process of communicating with your child. That doesn't mean that those types of software don't have a place. They do have a place. They have a place where other things have failed to the process. It's more of a second, third, fourth line of defense; instead of the first line of defense.