Dating after divorce

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Dating after divorce

I often get asked when can somebody introduce their partner to their child, and the rule of thumb is not until it is a committed relationship. And a committed relationship means that you've been with the same person for at least three, optiminally six, months. This way the child doesn't get attached to someone then have to experience another loss. When you're going to introduce the child, you don't want it to be a surprise, so you want to give them as much advanced notice as you can. You can say something like, "I've met someone special and they've become very special to me, and i would like to introduce them to you. Tell me how you feel about that. What are your thoughts? What are your feelings?" Let them weigh in on how they feel about your partner. Don't assume that they're going to like them as well, but the more advanced notice that you give them, the more you're able to parse out what they feel, the better chance you get of them liking your partner.

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Dr. Katherine Sellwood is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Encino, California, who specializes in child, adult and forensic family psychology. She began her Master's Degree training at Pepperdine University, continuing her education at C.S.P.P. to obtain a Doctoral Degree in the field of Clinical Psychology. Since entering the field in 1996, Dr. Sellwood has garnered a diverse professional background that includes working as an elementary and middle school counselor, college and regional center disabilities specialist, executive director of a non-profit organization in psychology, consulting psychologist at hospitals and in-patient medical facilities, and an academic Professor of Psychology at several graduate schools. Dr. Sellwood has been a guest lecturer presenting topics that include: anger management, early childhood development, play therapy techniques, taking a stand against teenage violence, developing resilience, treating children of divorce, loss and grief, adolescent girls and disordered body images, understanding behavioral difficulties.

Dr. Sellwood holds a license in clinical psychology through the state of California. She is on the National Register of Health Service Providers in Psychology, and is a Diplomate with the American Board of Professional Psychology. Her professional affiliations also include The American Psychological Association, The Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, and The American Academy of Clinical Psychology. She has received professional honors and recognition through the Psy Chi National Honor Society of Psychology, the California Senate for excellence in school counseling, student nominated Who’s Who of America’s Teachers, and peer nominated Sierra Tucson’s Gratitude for Giving.

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