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Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Cristina Trette is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist that specializes in counseling parents, couples, and families. She is the owner of Integrative Family Therapy, a counseling practice based in Encinitas, California. In addition to counseling, she writes and teaches workshops on parenting, relationships, and mental health. You can learn more about her at

My third child had just been born and I was totally overwhelmed. It was summer. This meant long days. I had three kids, ages 4 and under, at home with me all day and night with little to no help. My house shifted from being relatively happy and peaceful to a complete chaotic mess overnight. My middle child, age 2 at the time, had the most difficult time with the transition. He resisted getting dressed, taking naps, and getting into the car. Everything became a battle. Eventually I reached my breaking point. 
"It is that feeling that you've done this to me, so I'll do this to you, then you'll do this to me, and then I'll do this to you. And what happens in that is: It just gets bigger and bigger, and bigger. And no one ever wins. There is no triumph that ever comes from any of that."                                                                                       - Abraham-Hicks      
Your day began at 4:45 am when your youngest woke you up because he had a nightmare. After soothing him back to sleep, you manage to get a bit more rest. At 5:30 am you pull yourself out of bed. You get ready. Then, you immediately jump into preparing breakfast and lunch while trying to find matching socks for your five year old. Everyone is ready and in the car on time. But, half-way to school your little one remembers that he left his special blanket at home. You endure his pint sized panic attack for the remainder of the drive.


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