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11 Ways to Build Siblings’ Love for Each Other


When you have more than one child the desire for them to be friends, rather than enemies is great. Often, siblings are naturally the best of friends, however for when those times arise that there is more bickering then hugs these tips will come in handy.

Tips to Help Your Children be Friends

1. Appreciate their similarities and their differences, and teach them to do the same.

2. Provide opportunities for them to play both together and alone.

3. Catch them being good: Reward them for getting along with positive attention.

4. Don’t referee every skirmish: Teach them how to negotiate and compromise with each other.

5. Let them complain about you to each other – it builds their bond and gives them someone to talk to about their feelings. This will be most helpful when they are teenagers, so build the bond now.

6. Discover interests that they share and arrange times for them to pursue those interests together.

7. Don’t feed rivalry by showing favoritism or by comparing them to each other in negative, or even positive, ways.

8. Assume the best. Even if they bicker it doesn’t mean they hate each other. Many bicker-y siblings grow up to be the best of friends.

9. Eat dinner as a family. Let the kids make the meal together once a month. Let them organize, shop and cook if you can. Eat what they make with joy. Having “team success” will bring them closer.

10. Teach that ‘fair’ doesn’t mean ‘equal.’ Help your child focus on his own needs rather than what his sibling has.

11. Tell them you love them – often. A well-loved child is a happier child and more likely to get along with siblings and friends.


If your children don't get along, these tips might help.

No-Cry Solution Series Author

Elizabeth Pantley is a parent educator, mother of four, and the author of the now-classic baby sleep book, The No-Cry Sleep Solution, as well as six other books in the series, including The No-Cry Separation Anxiety SolutionThe No-Cry Potty Training SolutionThe No-Cry Discipline Solution, The No-Cry Picky Eater Solution, plus other successful parenting books. She is known worldwide as the practical, reasonable voice of respectful parenting.