Many young adults today (yes, we’re talking mainly about Millenials, but not exclusively) fear parenthood and the responsibilities it involves.
True, this is a life-changing decision that will have a powerful financial impact, but, the main fear is connected to their freedom. Both men and women fear that, once they procreate, their lives will only revolve around their children and they’ll be buried under a sea of diapers, dance lessons, and college fund worries for the following 18 to 25 years.
We’re here to tell you that having children doesn’t have to be a decision between your life and the life of your kids. You can still be good parents and have a life you’ll enjoy. In fact, it is the best way to raise a child as you will serve as a positive role model for their own adulthood.
Of course, you should first discuss this with your partner and decide you are both interested in being parents. This is not something anyone should do out of accident, obligation, or social pressure!
So, if you are both hoping to be parents someday but feel like you will be surrendering your interesting lifestyle for a difficult, boring one, here are a few ways you can still be kick-ass adults with amazing lives (even with children by your side).
Give Up on the Idea of Perfection
Many new parents fall into the trap of wanting to be the perfect parent without doing the research first. This way, they end up following rules and decisions made by other parents (about which you read online) or they comply with what others tell them about parenthood.
This is an experience unique for every parent. While it is important to consider the advice of other people with children, it’s just as important to develop your own brand of parenthood. As long as your kids are happy, healthy, and feel loved, you are doing a fantastic job!
As a side note, every kid is different and you can’t (shouldn’t) follow the same pattern and rules with a new child.
Continue to Improve Yourself
Having children is no longer a career-ending decision for women (unless this is your choice). So, while it may be a bit more difficult to hold a standard 9-to-5 job, nowadays there are lots of work from home jobs one can try.
Also, even if you do decide to put your professional life on hold for the first few years in your children’s lives, you shouldn’t stop caring about your self-development. You now have easy access to advanced online platforms with tons of high-quality resources that let you study at your own pace.
This is important for you, as the stay-at-home parent, and for the kids who will learn to be self-sufficient and independent early on.
Yes, You Can Still Travel
One of the main reasons people postpone having children has to do with traveling. Since the cost of traveling is quite affordable (depending on the destination), more young adults want to see the world before they settle.
This can be a fantastic experience and you shouldn’t ignore it, but being a parent doesn’t mean you’ll stay put forever. Kids can be taken on trips, and they will have a blast regardless of age! Sure, it may be a bit more difficult, but you’ll get used to the idea and things will get better.
It’s absolutely natural to be scared of the idea of having children - even with all the modern technologies, it is still a major change in your life. However, if you choose this path, it doesn’t have to take away from the awesomeness of your lifestyle. It just adds to it!