Guidelines for an emotionally healthy divorce

David Palmiter, PhD, ABPP Psychologist and Author, shares advice for parents getting a divorce on how to make it as emotionally healthy as possible
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Guidelines for an emotionally healthy divorce

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In divorce situation the first thing that I have to acknowledge is the depth of my wound. You’re someone I’ve opened up to myself heart, soul and body as much as a human can and they rejected that, that’s a deep wound. On top of that, it can be financial debt problems, infidelity, addiction, all kinds of things, and so it’s very easy for me to think that that wound I can maintain it and still be as effective for my kid. I can’t maintain loathing for an ex and love for my kid, when two bound together; one is going to affect the other. So the top tip I would have for divorce folks is to promote self healing as much as possible and I tell you if the biathlon is the toughest thing for an athlete, forgiveness is the toughest thing for a human, it’s the toughest psychological task, unilateral forgiveness, if I can do that as a human, I’m at the top of the mountain.

David Palmiter, PhD, ABPP Psychologist and Author, shares advice for parents getting a divorce on how to make it as emotionally healthy as possible

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David Palmiter, PhD, ABPP

Psychologist & Author

Dr. David Palmiter is a professor of Psychology and Counseling at Marywood University. He is a practicing and board-certified clinical psychologist, a past president of the Pennsylvania Psychological Association, the author of over three dozen publications, including two books on promoting resilience in youth, a Fellow of the American Psychological Association (true of < 6% of psychologists), the American Academy of Clinical Psychology and the Pennsylvania Psychological Association in youth. He has also given hundreds of workshops on family issues for organizations such as The Navy SEAL Foundation, The Master Therapist Series at the University of Connecticut, The American Psychological Association and the McGraw-Hill Financial Group and completed hundreds of media projects for outlets such as CNN, The New York Times, US News and World Report and the Wall Street Journal. David is also a dad of three (two studying at Cornell University and one still in high school) and husband of 27 years to Dr. Lia Richards-Palmiter. A central aspect of his professional mission is to put air under the wings of parents as they try to raise happy and resilient children and teens.

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