Kids in the House - Teenager & Tween https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/articles/parenting-advice-on-teenager-tween en Teens, Parents & Sex Moving from "The Talk" to True Dialogue https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teen/sexuality-and-body-image/teens-parents-sex-moving-from-the-talk-to-true-dialogue <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/styles/article-725w/public/dad-talking-to-teen.jpg?itok=Xwfw3bTx" width="600" height="400" alt="" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p>New data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) shows a 25 percent drop in the U.S. teen birth rate from 2007 to 2011—good news because most Americans hope that young people will wait until maturity to begin a family.  Providing teens with <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/parenting-teens/talking-with-your-teen/how-to-talk-to-teens-about-sex-and-puberty">medically-accurate information</a> and access to effective contraception is necessary to reduce unintended pregnancy.  However, studies have also repeatedly shown that parental involvement is critical—particularly in encouraging teens to delay sexual activity. </p> <p>  The fact is that parents have an important role to play—and that role starts long before a teen begins dating.  Often <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/sexuality/talking-about-sex/how-and-when-to-talk-about-sex-to-your-children">parent-child communication</a> about sexuality is referred to as “The Talk,” but I recommend that—instead of putting so much pressure on one big conversation—parents look for opportunities to develop an open, honest <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/sexuality/talking-about-sex/talking-about-sex-your-teen">dialogue</a> about their values, healthy relationships and <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/sexuality/talking-about-sex/explaining-the-sexuality-spectrum">sexual health</a>. </p> <p> </p> <p>These opportunities—and the information you choose to share—will depend on your child’s age and maturity.  For example, if you’re watching television with your middle school student and a character behaves in a way that you find <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/bullying/sexual-harassment/teenage-sexual-harassment">troubling</a>, you might ask “What did you think when X pressured Y?”  Or “Watching her treat him like that really bothered me. What did you think?” An open-ended question provides a chance to listen to what and how your child is thinking, and to reinforce or counter a particular message.</p> <p>With older teens, it might be appropriate to take a more direct approach—for example, if you walk in on your teenage son passionately kissing his girlfriend.  Acknowledge the situation with him after she leaves, then begin by focusing on health: “I didn’t mean to embarrass you…but I want you to know that I hope you always make the healthiest choices for yourself, and that includes pregnancy and <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/sexuality/stds/american-teen-sexual-activity">STD prevention</a>.”  Responses such as <em>“Mom!”</em> can be followed with: “Most people become sexually active at some point in their lives, and I really hope you think carefully about that decision…”  You can ask if he has questions, weave in the specific information and <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/sexuality/talking-about-sex/sexual-values">values</a> you want him to consider, or choose to address those in depth separately.</p> <p>The important thing is to open the lines of communication.  Remember, even brief exchanges can be meaningful.  Just keep looking for those natural openings—and keep the dialogue going.</p> <p> </p> </div></div></div><section class="field field-name-field-article-categories field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-above clearfix"> <h2 class="field-label">Article Categories:&nbsp;</h2> <ul class="field-items"> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/articles/parenting-advice-on-teenager-tween" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Teenager &amp; Tween</a> </li> </ul> </section> <section class="field field-name-field-video-category field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-above clearfix"> <h2 class="field-label">Category:&nbsp;</h2> <ul class="field-items"> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/teenager" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">TEEN</a> </li> <li class="field-item odd"> <a href="/teenager/sexuality" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Sexuality and Body Image</a> </li> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/teenager/sexuality/talking-about-sex" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Talking about Sex</a> </li> <li class="field-item odd"> <a href="/teenager/sexuality/Birth%20Control" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Birth Control</a> </li> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/teenager/sexuality/sexual-activity" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Sexual Activity</a> </li> <li class="field-item odd"> <a href="/teenager/sexuality/stds" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">STDs</a> </li> </ul> </section> Tue, 15 Nov 2016 18:32:30 +0000 Kids In The House 31961 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teen/sexuality-and-body-image/teens-parents-sex-moving-from-the-talk-to-true-dialogue#comments No. 1 Reason Youth Turn to the Nat'l Runaway Safeline https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/no-1-reason-youth-turn-to-the-natl-runaway-safeline <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/styles/article-725w/public/runawayhotline.jpg?itok=3cFjFdOT" width="600" height="400" alt="" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p align="">Robbie covers his ears because he’s tired of hearing his parents tear each other apart with their words. The looming divorce and his forever-changed life are weighing on him, so he picks up the phone and dials 1-800-RUNAWAY. Melissa received the news that her mom will say “I do” to husband No. 2, so she went to 1800RUNAWAY.org to talk to somebody about her concerns via live chat. Joey just can’t manage to get along with his step brother, and it’s enough to make him want to leave home. Before he does so, he goes to the National Runaway Safeline (NRS) online bulletin boards to see if anybody can help him through this.</p> <p>Each year, NRS analyzes <a href="http://www.1800runaway.org/learn/research/2012_nrs_call_statistics/">information collected</a> from its free, anonymous and confidential connections with youth in crisis and learns that family dynamics, which are problems similar to what Robbie, Melissa and Joey reported, is consistently the No.1 reason for their distress. In 2012, family dynamics was again the most reported issue at 29 percent. </p> <p>Often kids run away from home to remove themselves from an immediately painful situation, but with no plans for what to do next. NRS is a resource for these youth and they can talk about their situation confidentially without fear of judgment. Reversely, parents or family members who recognize there is a problem that may encourage their child to run away, can also contact NRS for help. Calls, live chat and bulletin boards are handled by staff and more than 150 volunteers, who have completed a 40-hour training program before making their first connection. NRS answers the call for help by listening and discussing viable options.</p> <p>Problems that fall in the bucket of family dynamics can sometimes be addressed with better communication among family members. Runaway prevention is key, so here are10 simple family communication tips for parents, which may help at home before things get out of hand.</p> <p>1.     Set aside time to talk. </p> <p>2.     Speak in a calm voice.</p> <p>3.     Say what you mean and be prepared to listen.</p> <p>4.     Try not to interrupt the other person.</p> <p>5.     Avoid sarcasm, whining, threats, yelling, demeaning comments or making personal attacks.</p> <p>6.     Don't think your answer is the only answer.</p> <p>7.     Be willing to compromise.</p> <p>8.     If things get too heated, take a break and come back to the discussion later.</p> <p>9.     Acknowledge that you are in this together.</p> <p>10.   Have patience! Good communication takes time and effort.</p> <p>This is a short list among many tidbits of advice to help guide families. Do you have other suggestions?  We invite you to share your experiential wisdom with others by participating in NRS’ Youth and Parent Tip Campaign 2013.  NRS is asking for tips for youth and parents from youth and parents, which can be submitted at <a href="http://www.1800RUNAWAY.org">1800RUNAWAY.org</a>.  An expert panel will select and feature the most helpful tips as a resource on the website beginning in November, which is National Runaway Prevention Month. Please help us, help others by sharing your knowledge.</p> <p> </p> </div></div></div><section class="field field-name-field-article-categories field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-above clearfix"> <h2 class="field-label">Article Categories:&nbsp;</h2> <ul class="field-items"> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/articles/parenting-advice-on-teenager-tween" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Teenager &amp; Tween</a> </li> </ul> </section> Tue, 25 Jun 2013 22:22:44 +0000 WebAdminKith 32551 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/no-1-reason-youth-turn-to-the-natl-runaway-safeline#comments Why Teens Drink Alcohol https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teen/why-teens-drink-alcohol <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/styles/article-725w/public/thinkstockphotos-514878051_1.jpg?itok=hNl6zEd1" width="507" height="338" alt="teen drinking" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p>Research estimates that by age 15, 35% of teens say that they have had at least one drink and by the age of 18, this increases to 65% of teens. Why are teenagers at such an early age exposed to alcohol and drinking situations? Parents can communicate with their teenagers by educating them on the consequences of alcohol and drug use. For answers to all your questions, continue reading or learn more here: http://bit.ly/29nwMqP Source: http://pubs.niaaa.nih.gov/publications/UnderageDrinking/Underage_Fact.pdf</p> <p>As parents, we all remember the days when either we were tempted to drink underage or we had friends who were drinking underage. The same reasons that teens drank alcohol when we were younger hold true for today’s generation.</p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/substance-abuse/alcohol/what-teens-need-to-know-about-binge-drinking">Teen alcohol consumption</a> might not have gone up since we were their age, but there is still danger in teen drinking. <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/substance-abuse/alcohol/setting-boundaries-and-rules-about-teen-drinking"> Why teens drink</a> has not changed. Peer pressure, escape from reality and a lack of structure can all be reasons why a teen might start drinking.</p> <p>As one expert, <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/expert/parenting-advice-from-deborah-gilboa-md"> Dr. Deborah Gilboa</a>, suggests, the teen brain is wired to be attracted to risk. What once stimulated your child in an exciting way may no longer provide the same results. For this reason, teens begin experimenting with substances, specifically alcohol.</p> <p>One reason teens drink is to show off that they are breaking the rules. Our society glorifies deviant culture and our teens are exposed to this behavior in numerous popular culture media from songs to movies.</p> <p>Ultimately, in order to understand why your child in particular drinks, you need to ask questions. Talk to your teen about what he or she may already know about alcohol and then set them straight. Chances are your child already knows the potential consequences but this process of re-articulation back to you is a good reminder.</p> <p><img alt="Why Teens Drink" src="/sites/default/files/thinkstockphotos-514420179_1.jpg" style="width:250px; height:auto; float:right; padding-left:20px; padding-bottom:10px;" title="Why Teens Drink" /></p> <p>Some think <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/substance-abuse/alcohol/why-alcohol-is-the-biggest-threat-to-our-teens"> teen drinking</a> is OK because they see their parents do it or they see friends’ parents do it. Despite the fact that alcohol is a drug, it seems less threatening to children when they know people who are close to them that drink, says parenting professional and psychologist, <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/expert/parenting-advice-from-michael-j-bradley-edd"> Michael J. Bradley</a>.</p> <p>Ultimately, teens drink for a number of reasons and the way to best help them as a parent is to understand your child’s unique justification of such risky behavior. Help them at least try to comprehend that their tolerance for risk has gone up but the consequences for more dangerous behavior are higher too.</p> <p><span style="font-size:11.0pt"><span style="font-family:&quot;Calibri&quot;,sans-serif">If you want to learn more on<b> </b><a href="https://www.addictionanswers.com/alcohol-abuse-and-addiction/">alcohol withdrawal symptoms</a><b> </b>you can check in your local recovery center or in the internet.</span></span></p> </div></div></div><section class="field field-name-field-article-categories field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-above clearfix"> <h2 class="field-label">Article Categories:&nbsp;</h2> <ul class="field-items"> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/articles/parenting-advice-on-teenager-tween" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Teenager &amp; Tween</a> </li> </ul> </section> <section class="field field-name-field-video-category field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-above clearfix"> <h2 class="field-label">Category:&nbsp;</h2> <ul class="field-items"> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/teenager" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">TEEN</a> </li> </ul> </section> Thu, 27 Feb 2020 21:12:04 +0000 WebAdminKith 48846 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teen/why-teens-drink-alcohol#comments Summertime Adolescent Drinking https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teen/substance-use/summertime-adolescent-drinking <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/styles/article-725w/public/teen_drinking.jpg?itok=NPUEzF0i" width="600" height="399" alt="" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p>Mom and Dad sat stunned on my office couch. They were great parents, appropriately involved in their 15-year-old son’s life, trying not to over control while also attempting to keep him safe, toeing that elusive parental “balance point” the experts love. Their son “Myles” also seemed great: good grades in an elite school, talented athlete, lots of friends- he seemed like the kid we’d all want for our son, with one exception: <em>he had been drinking heavily two-to-three times every week throughout the summer.</em></p> <p>Their shock only increased as their son “came clean” about his drinking, which he was so at ease in admitting since “everyone does this” in his world. “You guys are the only parents who are so crazy about us (his friends) drinking,” he calmly explained. “Check it out. It’s no big deal, not like we’re doing drugs. The other parents are all cool with this, and some even drink with us. Why do you guys think all the sleepovers are never at our house?” He paused for emphasis: “<em>Every single kid I know from school drinks at least as much as me.</em>”</p> <p>This article’s title above is an old adage from the drug rehab community which has now taken on a sobering (pun intended) new meaning for those of us whose hearts are tied to teenagers. It refers to the idea that one drink for an alcoholic can start a never ending binge of drug use (boozing) while chasing a feeling he can never achieve with the drug. We now have science proving that adage can apply to teen drinking as well. A 2012 study from the University of Florida (published in The Journal of School Health) found that <em>alcohol</em> is the feared “gateway drug” the chemical which whacks vulnerable teen brains to promote other drug use to include heroin and cocaine, all used in succession to achieve that unattainable high. The increased level of risk is stunning: teens who drink have up to a <em>16-fold increased risk </em>of abusing other drugs. But as Myles pointed out, the irony is that too many parents have a laid-back view of teen drinking, preferring to see it as a harmless rite-of-passage instead of what it truly is: <em>dangerous drug use</em>. Teen brains simply aren’t equipped to handle the addictive and brain damaging impacts of ethanol (yes, Virginia, there is ethanol in your kid’s alcohol). So much so that a teen who begins drinking at age 14 has a <em>500% increased risk of addiction</em> over someone who waits to drink legally.</p> <p>A related irony is that there are also too many parents who hate the fact that their teens drink who have given up trying to stop them, feeling overwhelmed by the drinking culture. As Myles’ father asked, “Well, what can we do since all of his friends are doing this? He has to have some sort of social life.” In response I offer two facts: the first is that while many teens do drink regularly, <em>at least half don’t.</em> Kids tend to segregate themselves into groups of similar interests and attitudes and so it can seem to half of them that “everyone does this.” Of course, Myles response is that those sober kids are “dorks and dweebs” with whom he’d never associate, illustrating the problem of how difficult it is for a teen to socially reinvent himself at 15 in order to start to hang out with drug-free kids. So start communicating your drug position to your kid early on, long before the teen friend choices get locked in. Researchers are constantly amazed to learn how so many teens (often one-third of them) don’t even know what their parent’s attitudes and beliefs are about teen drinking.</p> <p>My second helpful fact is that parents who maintain a calm, loving, and firm anti-drug position have kids who tend to avoid using drugs (“Son, we love you far too much to let you do something that can terribly hurt you. We may disagree on this, but our position is firm.  We are asking that you not drink until you are 21. You can have your sleepovers, but only at our house until we can trust that this drinking has stopped”). A zero-tolerance policy is not a rage-filled police state but is rather a loving belief which, quietly expressed, definitely limits teen drug behaviors.</p> <p>After a few sessions, Myles became the stunned participant, a teenager who stared in amazement at his parents, people he previously saw as being sane, reasonable folks who now sat firmly united in their “crazy” zero-tolerance alcohol policy, a loving expectation framed by concern for their child. Since these parents didn’t get very heavy about very many things, this “line in the sand” really stood out to their child. In his last session, Myles’ eyes betrayed his thoughts, revealing his worry that perhaps his folks were right, that his friends could be wrong, and that his drinking today might effectively take his life tomorrow. His dangerous belief about drinking was now open to change, setting the stage for healing growth.</p> <p>And all of that was accomplished without a single shouted word or scary threat. That’s the quiet power of parental love.</p> </div></div></div><section class="field field-name-field-article-categories field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-above clearfix"> <h2 class="field-label">Article Categories:&nbsp;</h2> <ul class="field-items"> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/articles/parenting-advice-on-teenager-tween" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Teenager &amp; Tween</a> </li> </ul> </section> <section class="field field-name-field-video-category field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-above clearfix"> <h2 class="field-label">Category:&nbsp;</h2> <ul class="field-items"> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/teenager" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">TEEN</a> </li> <li class="field-item odd"> <a href="/teenager/substance-abuse" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Substance Use</a> </li> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/teenager/substance-abuse/prevention" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Substance Abuse Prevention</a> </li> <li class="field-item odd"> <a href="/teenager/substance-abuse/alcohol" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Alcohol Use</a> </li> </ul> </section> Tue, 02 Aug 2016 19:49:20 +0000 WebAdminKith 35281 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teen/substance-use/summertime-adolescent-drinking#comments Teen Tobacco Use https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teen/teen-tobacco-use <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/styles/article-725w/public/thinkstockphotos-162684407_1.jpg?itok=kNI0E79C" width="508" height="337" alt="teensmoking" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p>In June of 2016, new studies were published by the <a href="http://www.cdc.gov/media/releases/2016/p0609-yrbs.html">CDC</a> that estimated that teen cigarette smoking rates for high school students are the lowest they have been in the past 25 years. While cigarette smoking has decreased, teenagers are partaking in other risky activities, such as using e-cigarettes. Studies might seem optimistic, but it is still very important to educate teenagers and parents about smoking.</p> <p>Everyone these days knows that smoking cigarettes is bad for you, yet many people still do it. In fact, there are new consumers of cigarettes every day, primarily of the teen age demographic. This article is intended to help parents who find their</p> <p> </p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/substance-abuse/tobacco/how-a-13-year-old-girl-becomes-vulnerable-to-cigarette-addiction">teen smoking</a>.</p> <p>With flashy and convincing marketing targeted specifically at teens, it can be hard for them to avoid trying smoking. Once a teen tries smoking once, he or she is likely to continue smoking.</p> <p>If your teen is smoking, you need to know why. Knowing the answer to this will help you as you work out a plan with your teen to stop smoking. Many tobacco users have histories of depression and originally began using tobacco as a way of self-medicating. Nicotine numbs feelings, says parenting professional,</p> <p> </p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/expert/parenting-advice-from-jean-kilbourne-edd">Jean Kilbourne</a>.</p> <p>While depression is not the only reason teens smoke, it is a serious mood disorder that might also need treatment.</p> <p><img alt="Teen Tobacco Use" src="/sites/default/files/thinkstockphotos-528983815_1.jpg" style="width:250px; height:auto; float:right; padding-left:20px; padding-bottom:10px;" title="Teen Tobacco Use" /></p> <p>When we see a</p> <p> </p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/substance-abuse/tobacco/why-girls-think-smoking-cigarettes-will-keep-them-skinny">teen using tobacco</a>, it is important to consider what drove that child to start smoking; especially when there is so much information out there proving the hurt that tobacco can cause to an individual’s health.</p> <p>Many teens, especially girls, think that smoking will keep them skinny. Cigarette companies capitalize on this using branding such as “slims” or “light,” explains Jean Kilbourne.</p> <p>Cigarettes have also become synonymous with liberation. The cigarette will forever represent a deviant culture that perpetuates a rule-breaking, “cool,” and elite group that many wish to be a part of. Tobacco has been glamorized to the point where teenagers are willing to accept the harm to their health (which will effect them in the long run) for the short-term popular status they get in return.</p> <p>If you have a teen who regularly smokes, ask him or her what the pay off of such risky behavior is, recommends parenting professional,</p> <p> </p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/expert/parenting-advice-from-michael-j-bradley-edd">Michael J. Bradley</a>.</p> <p>He also tells parents to reward their kid to fight the battle to</p> <p> </p> <p><a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/substance-abuse/tobacco/what-to-do-if-your-teen-is-smoking-cigarettes">stop smoking</a>; going for bigger rewards than the kid gets from smoking will result in more of a motivation to stop smoking.</p> </div></div></div><section class="field field-name-field-article-categories field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-above clearfix"> <h2 class="field-label">Article Categories:&nbsp;</h2> <ul class="field-items"> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/articles/parenting-advice-on-teenager-tween" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Teenager &amp; Tween</a> </li> </ul> </section> <section class="field field-name-field-video-category field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-above clearfix"> <h2 class="field-label">Category:&nbsp;</h2> <ul class="field-items"> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/teenager" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">TEEN</a> </li> </ul> </section> Tue, 02 Aug 2016 00:11:36 +0000 WebAdminKith 48849 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teen/teen-tobacco-use#comments What Every Parent Needs to Know about Teen Pregnancy https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teen/sexuality-and-body-image/what-every-parent-needs-to-know-about-teen-pregnancy <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/styles/article-725w/public/08_-_teen_pregnancy_-_nowatermark.jpg?itok=dzaKMTdt" width="600" height="400" alt="Teen Pregnancy" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p>Since 2014, studies have shown that teen birth rates have been declining. Birth rates have fallen 11% for women between the ages of 15–17 years and 7% for women between the ages of 18–19 years, according to the <a href="http://www.cdc.gov/teenpregnancy/about/">CDC</a>. To continue this steady decline of teen pregnancy, parents can maintain a open line of healthy communication with their children. Teenagers should also be educated on safe-sex practices. Continue reading for more helpful tips on this subject...</p> <p>When Kids In The House interviewed Psychologist, Sheila Kamen, PsyD, about<a href="http://kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/sexuality/teen-pregnancy"> teenage pregnancy</a>, we learned that teens in the United States are engaging in sexual activity at younger ages, with more partners, and with less likelihood of practicing safe-sex than ever before. In an effort to get to the bottom of this behavior, we interviewed experts to reveal the number one thing parents should do when raising a potentially <a href="http://kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/sexuality/sexual-activity">sexually active</a> teenager.</p> <p><strong>Step 1: Communicate by having the real “sex talk”</strong></p> <p>            Teenage pregnancy has been a highly publicized topic for quite awhile now. MTV’s popular reality show, 16 and Pregnant, is returning this year with its fifth spinoff, Teen Mom: OG.   The television show will chronicle the lives of the teen moms from season one and update viewers on where they are now.  Some critics of the show challenge the program’s portrayal of reality, while some are thankful that mainstream media has brought the issue of teen pregnancy to the public’s attention in an effort, at least, to get a conversation started.<br />             Kids In The House expert and former teen mom, Aaliyah Noble, shared her thoughts on teenage pregnancy reality shows like the one mentioned above, saying, “A lot of [teens] become parents because they don’t have enough information.” She continued, “TV shows that <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/sexuality/birth-control-and-pregnancy/teen-pregnancy-media?qt-more_videos=1#qt-more_videos">glamorize teenage pregnancy</a> should take the time to step back and focus on the issues that [teens] face: not being able to go to the prom, not being able to hang out with their friends, and not being able to have enough money to take care of the needs of their child.” Between making paid appearances, covering magazines, and now being revered as “OGs” or “original gangsters,” many of the teen moms are now considered celebrities. As a result, one may question whether or not the show’s messaging promotes the idea that being a teenage mother can possibly lead to fame.<br />             So what can parents do to create a balanced perception of teenage pregnancy for their child, both in spite of and in addition to mainstream media portrayal? Kids In The House experts say that the most important thing any parent can do is to have an honest conversation with their teen about what teenage pregnancy may be like. Neuropsychiatrist, Daniel Siegel, MD, says that parents should “talk openly with your child about <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/sexuality/sexual-activity/what-to-do-about-teenagers-and-hooking-up" title="Teen pregnancy and hooking up">what sexuality means</a>,” which involves mapping out how your child is feeling and talking about the serious physical and emotional ramifications having sex too soon can pose.</p> <p>Note: Talk to your teen about the hormonal changes he or she is facing. Puberty poses many physical changes in teens, and our experts say parents should make sure to acknowledge this and have the “sex talk” as early and often as possible.</p> <p><strong>Step 2: Communicate by stressing the importance of safety to a sexually active teen</strong></p> <p>            One of the toughest things parents can experience is discovering their <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/sexuality/sexual-activity/advice-parents-about-what-do-your-sexually-active-daughter">child is sexually active</a>. Kids In The House experts say that, while parents do not want to believe their teen is “hooking up” or having sex, the reality is that many teens are.<br />             When parents find out their teen is having sex, they are often angry. However, the first thing parents should do, according to relationship expert, Wendy Walsh, PhD, is keep a level head and talk to their teen. “The most important thing to happen is to find out if they have enough knowledge to keep themselves safe,” says Walsh, “Without being judgmental, you want to make sure they’re armed with all the adult information they need.” As a parent it is your job to provide your teen with as much information about STDs, safe-sex practices, and the physical and emotional consequences of having sex.<br />           <br /> Note: As a parent, you cannot reverse your teen’s actions, but you can communicate with them in effort to influence their future decisions. Make sure you support your teen through the emotional and physical complexities that hooking up or having sex may have already caused.</p> <p><strong>Step 3: Communicate by supporting your pregnant teenager</strong></p> <p>            Being a teenager is hard enough as it is, and it is even more difficult while pregnant. “They need different information,” says Aaliyah Noble, including guidance on medical issues such as immunizations and circumcision. They are also undergoing puberty, which poses its own physical and emotional insecurities. As a result, teens may need encouragement when dealing with issues like breastfeeding in public or accepting their body as it changes.<br />             Pattie Mallette, who was a teen when she gave birth to now-pop star, Justin Bieber, says that what teen parents need the most is <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/sexuality/birth-control-and-pregnancy/advice-for-pregnant-teens-and-teen-parents" title="Advice for Pregnant Teens">support and positive communication</a>. “There are so many amazing programs. There’s even support groups you can join,” says Mallette. Parents need to keep the lines of communication open with their pregnant teen (and with a teen father-to-be) to make sure he or she feels supported and loved at every stage.</p> <p>Note: Communicating your love for your pregnant teen will lead to his or her increased confidence as a parent. Your teen may be in a relationship or facing the pregnancy as a single parent or partner, so it is important for your relationship with your teen to remain strong.</p> <p>Kids In The House experts encourage parents of all children and teenagers to stay well informed and start the conversation about sex as early as possible. Raising a maturing teen and finding out the best way to communicate about teen pregnancy is difficult, but we are here to help!</p> </div></div></div><section class="field field-name-field-article-categories field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-above clearfix"> <h2 class="field-label">Article Categories:&nbsp;</h2> <ul class="field-items"> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/articles/parenting-advice-on-teenager-tween" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Teenager &amp; Tween</a> </li> </ul> </section> <section class="field field-name-field-video-category field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-above clearfix"> <h2 class="field-label">Category:&nbsp;</h2> <ul class="field-items"> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/teenager" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">TEEN</a> </li> <li class="field-item odd"> <a href="/teenager/sexuality" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Sexuality and Body Image</a> </li> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/teenager/parenting-teens" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Parenting Teens</a> </li> <li class="field-item odd"> <a href="/teenager/health-and-development" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Health and Development</a> </li> </ul> </section> Tue, 26 Jul 2016 20:15:57 +0000 Kids In The House 48450 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teen/sexuality-and-body-image/what-every-parent-needs-to-know-about-teen-pregnancy#comments Body Image And The Media https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/article/teen/sexuality-and-body-image/body-image/the-medias-influence-on-body-image <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/styles/article-725w/public/474424789.jpg?itok=T01QleZT" width="507" height="338" alt="" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p>Global Youth Ambassador Marushka Mujic asks you to remember what it’s like to be an adolescent. Was it transformative, especially around your attitude toward your body during puberty? With the onset of that momentous occasion coming earlier for today’s children, <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/parenting-teens/bonding-with-your-teen/relating-to-your-teen" target="_blank">body image</a> is becoming a big issue in middle school-aged children and younger.</p> <p>Not only are the foods our children eat making them face this challenge earlier on in life, but their environment isn’t helping either. With the rise in celebrity coverage, coupled with being connected 24/7, our children are deluged with images every second. Many of those images are due to product marketing or scripted shows designed to create a provocative angle. Jean Kilbourne, a social theorist, explains that many <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/elementary/technology-and-media/how-ad-back-magazine-affects-top-ten-tips-inside" target="_blank">media outlets are influenced by advertisers</a>. What does that mean? The magazine or show can’t relate all the facts if it means cutting off their revenue supply.</p> <p>Body image and the media has always been a point of discussion and contention, as media portrayal of the female body has continuously resulted in body image disturbance for women, especially teens. For years, magazine and movie cover girls and guys were hailed as the way to be. They are beautiful, skinny, famous, and in most instances wealthy. Often this is still true, but editors and directors have paid attention to critics who wanted more real life examples. Though they still edge toward the tried-and-true standard, at least some changes have been made to give today’s kids a choice in their aspirations.</p> <p>Recently store retailers have come under fire for depicting unfair body types. Their online advertising has come into question after public outcry over edited images that make models appear prettier and slim to the point of unhealthy. Not the best image when we can’t nip and tuck with a <a href="https://www.adobe.com/express/feature/image/editor">photo editor</a>. Radio stations, including the streaming variety, also cultivate masses by hooking listeners to music. However, the music industry is full of questionable personal images. Many parents have balked at artists who promote sexualization with skimpy outfits or acts against the opposite sex when the singer has impressionable fans. Children don’t realize many times the star’s persona is due to the record label or manufacturer’s desire to boost sales.</p> <p>With technology’s advent, viral videos expressing people’s reactions to media have skyrocketed. Social media is a catalyst for the uprising, and lends itself to this generation’s need for instant feedback. Want to check your outfit before you head out the door? Post a picture with results in seconds. However, along with the positive come negative results. Children often don’t know how to filter unflattering remarks, and take them to heart, especially when what they’re being berated for isn’t easily changed. Criticism can lead to a number of problems including depression, mood swings, and in some cases end in suicide.</p> <p>How can you combat the deluge of images? Wanda Yeatman says to reflect on your <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/technology-and-media/setting-limits/dealing-inappropriate-media-influences" target="_blank">family values</a> and talk about what your child is seeing. Encourage them to follow celebrities or everyday people who are like them. Tell them they’re beautiful. Lastly, author Kelly Townsend adds to use every opportunity as a <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/elementary/technology-and-media/tv-and-screen-time/combatting-medias-influence-your-kids" target="_blank">teachable moment</a> with your teen.</p> </div></div></div><section class="field field-name-field-article-categories field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-above clearfix"> <h2 class="field-label">Article Categories:&nbsp;</h2> <ul class="field-items"> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/articles/parenting-advice-on-teenager-tween" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Teenager &amp; Tween</a> </li> </ul> </section> <section class="field field-name-field-video-category field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-above clearfix"> <h2 class="field-label">Category:&nbsp;</h2> <ul class="field-items"> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/teenager" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">TEEN</a> </li> <li class="field-item odd"> <a href="/teenager/sexuality" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Sexuality and Body Image</a> </li> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/teenager/sexuality/body-image" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Body Image</a> </li> </ul> </section> Wed, 03 Feb 2016 21:59:24 +0000 WebAdminKith 49503 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/article/teen/sexuality-and-body-image/body-image/the-medias-influence-on-body-image#comments Teen Binge Drinking https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teen/teen-binge-drinking <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/styles/article-725w/public/thinkstockphotos-71262353_1.jpg?itok=8gPkT5WC" width="414" height="414" alt="" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p>Although less common for adults, <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/substance-abuse/alcohol/what-to-do-if-your-child-is-binge-drinking-in-college"> binge drinking</a> happens more commonly during the teenage years and for a number of reasons. This pattern of drinking comes into play in the late high school to college years. For those of you who are unfamiliar with the term, binge drinking basically just means <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/substance-abuse/alcohol/the-dangerous-effects-of-binge-drinking"> over consuming alcohol</a>.</p> <p>When talking to your child about binge drinking, it is important to foster an environment for open communication. Do not coerce the &ldquo;right&rdquo; answer on them with leading questions or forceful tones. Rather, ask your child to explain to you what they already know. Assess their knowledge and if they are missing something, help them better understand.</p> <p>It is important to start the conversation about binge drinking early (before your child goes to college). Use a local story as an example and ask your teen to understand why that behavior is risky and potentially very dangerous, suggests parenting professional, <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/expert/parenting-advice-from-deborah-gilboa-md"> Deborah Gilboa</a>.</p> <img src="/sites/default/files/thinkstockphotos-474329624_1.jpg" alt="Teen Binge Drinking" title="Teen Binge Drinking" style="width:250px; height:auto; float:right; padding-left:20px; padding-bottom:10px;" /> <p>The current President of FAAR (Foundation for Advancing Alcohol Responsibility), <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/expert/parenting-advice-from-ralph-s-blackman"> Ralph Blackman</a>, posits that binge drinking is a coping mechanism for teens&rsquo; under preparedness for the real world.</p> <p>In explaining to your child why this behavior is unhealthy, try to show that the dangers associated with binge drinking far outweigh the potential benefits of one evening of &ldquo;fun.&rdquo;</p> <p>Ultimately, parents are the leading influencers when kids are deciding whether or not to drink so it is important to be an exemplary figure for your teen. Also remember that men are more likely to drink to excess than women are so you may need to approach the same conversation with your son differently than you would with a daughter.</p> <p>If you notice continual struggles with your child and binge drinking, we recommend that you consult a physician or a drug and alcohol expert. Sometimes, despite your best intentions, you may need more influence in order to best aide your teen. <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/substance-abuse/alcohol/why-alcohol-is-the-most-dangerous-drug-for-teens"> Excessive drinking</a> is extremely dangerous and should be treated so.</p></div></div></div><section class="field field-name-field-article-categories field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-above clearfix"> <h2 class="field-label">Article Categories:&nbsp;</h2> <ul class="field-items"> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/articles/parenting-advice-on-teenager-tween" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Teenager &amp; Tween</a> </li> </ul> </section> <section class="field field-name-field-video-category field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-above clearfix"> <h2 class="field-label">Category:&nbsp;</h2> <ul class="field-items"> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/teenager" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">TEEN</a> </li> </ul> </section> Tue, 04 Aug 2015 22:37:30 +0000 WebAdminKith 48848 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teen/teen-binge-drinking#comments Teen Alcoholism https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teen/teen-alcoholism <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/styles/article-725w/public/thinkstockphotos-494056735_1.jpg?itok=-h5OybRm" width="507" height="338" alt="Teen Alcoholism" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p>First off, as parents, no one wants to admit that their own child may have an issue with alcohol. Parents feel as though their competency as a parent is challenged when their <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/substance-abuse/alcohol/when-to-get-help-for-a-teen-drinking-too-much"> teen abuses substances</a> but they should not take the behavior personally.</p> <p>After a parent discovers his or her child&rsquo;s struggle with substance abuse, he or she must come to terms with the teen&rsquo;s situation. Once the parent has accepted that there is an issue, he or she can approach the teen with organized thoughts, says parenting professional, <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/expert/parenting-advice-from-ralph-s-blackman"> Ralph Blackman</a>.</p> <p>It can be hard to distinguish if your child has an addiction but there are some tell tale signs: losing sleep, hanging out with different friends, lack of interest, etc.</p> <p>Once you have determined that your child has a serious issue, consider engaging in a conversation with the teen and his or her doctor so that the conversation is more respected with that authoritative figure.</p> <p>Sometimes addiction comes from genetic predisposition, although it can be hard to tell for sure, admits parenting professional, <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/expert/parenting-advice-from-dan-cronin-lisac-cadac-cas-ccs"> Dan Cronin</a>.</p> <img src="/sites/default/files/thinkstockphotos-514106307_1.jpg" alt="Teen Alcohol Addiction" title="Teen Alcohol Addiction" style="width:250px; height:auto; float:right; padding-left:20px; padding-bottom:10px;" /> <p>There are many different factors that can contribute to <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/substance-abuse/alcohol/the-neurological-predisposition-to-addiction"> teenage alcoholism</a>. When determining if your child has a serious problem with alcohol, consider the family tree, behavioral issues, and organic issues.</p> <p>As a parent, you need to first ask yourself if your teen is crying out for help. It&rsquo;s not as much the behavior as it is the changes in behavior that will give you the answers for which you are looking.</p> <p>Keep in mind that it can be hard to make a judgment on teens sometimes because they have shorter histories of substance abuse than adults do. While an adult can be labeled an addict because of a 30-year history of abuse, a 14 year old does not have that same history for contextualization of behavior.</p> <p>Finally, an important fact to remember is that the earlier a teen abuses substances, the more likely he or she is to get addicted, says parenting professional, <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/expert/parenting-advice-from-david-sheff"> David Sheff</a>.</p></div></div></div><section class="field field-name-field-article-categories field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-above clearfix"> <h2 class="field-label">Article Categories:&nbsp;</h2> <ul class="field-items"> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/articles/parenting-advice-on-teenager-tween" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Teenager &amp; Tween</a> </li> </ul> </section> <section class="field field-name-field-video-category field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-above clearfix"> <h2 class="field-label">Category:&nbsp;</h2> <ul class="field-items"> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/teenager" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">TEEN</a> </li> </ul> </section> Tue, 04 Aug 2015 22:03:37 +0000 WebAdminKith 48845 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teen/teen-alcoholism#comments When You Discover Your Teen Has Been Drinking https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teen/when-you-discover-your-teen-has-been-drinking <div class="field field-name-field-article-image field-type-image field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><img typeof="foaf:Image" src="https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/sites/default/files/styles/article-725w/public/thinkstockphotos-56569620_1.jpg?itok=A1MdSkkS" width="414" height="414" alt="" /></div></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p>Many parents would like to assume that their child would never drink alcohol or even consider underage drinking. However, while most parents would say their kids are not drinking, most teens you ask would say that they are drinking. This incongruity shows that parents need to be prepared for anything, even if they do not expect their teen to engage in risky behavior such as underage drinking.</p> <p>One expert, <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/substance-abuse/alcohol/what-to-do-when-your-teen-has-been-drinking"> Julie Foudy</a>, says that the first step in handling a child who has been drinking is to make it clear you are on their side. As parents, we try to make decisions with our child&rsquo;s best interest in mind. What we envision as the best path for our children might not be what they have in mind for themselves. By engaging in a dialogue with your teen, you can start to reconcile these potentially different paths.</p> <p>When you find your <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/expert/parenting-advice-from-jean-kilbourne-edd"> teen drinking</a> for the first time, it is important to remain composed and avoid going off on your teen. Have a conversation. Make sure your child understands the consequences of <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/expert/parenting-advice-from-michael-r-fields-jd"> underage drinking</a> in both the short and the long term.</p> <p>Another expert, <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/substance-abuse/alcohol/when-you-catch-your-child-drinking"> Michael R. Fields</a>, notes that it is important to consider from where your teen is getting the alcohol&mdash;your home? Friends? If your child has access to alcohol in your home and is abusing the access, it could be time to re-evaluate what you want to keep in your home. If your teen is drinking with friends, that could mean you need to monitor with whom your child is spending his or her time.</p> <img src="/sites/default/files/thinkstockphotos-92868049_2.jpg" alt="Teen Drinking" title="Teen Drinking" style="width:250px; height:auto; float:right; padding-left:20px; padding-bottom:10px;" /> <p>In dealing with first offenses, be decisive. Know what to do now that the rules of the house have been violated. There must be consequences for your teen, says parenting expert, <a href="http://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/substance-abuse/alcohol/what-to-do-when-you-catch-your-teen-drinking"> Ralph S. Blackman</a>. Make sure your child knows that the rules should stand in other circumstances as well (like no drinking at home means no drinking at a friends home).</p> <p>Consequences can include being grounded. However, consequences only work when you stick to whatever you decide because if you don&rsquo;t, you undermine your authority.</p> <p>Ultimately, teens are not good at contextualizing their actions so you have to find a way to make this activity seem unattractive to them in the present. If you find that you are having trouble getting through to your teen, it could be time to get a professional involved.</p></div></div></div><section class="field field-name-field-article-categories field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-above clearfix"> <h2 class="field-label">Article Categories:&nbsp;</h2> <ul class="field-items"> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/articles/parenting-advice-on-teenager-tween" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">Teenager &amp; Tween</a> </li> </ul> </section> <section class="field field-name-field-video-category field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-above clearfix"> <h2 class="field-label">Category:&nbsp;</h2> <ul class="field-items"> <li class="field-item even"> <a href="/teenager" typeof="skos:Concept" property="rdfs:label skos:prefLabel" datatype="">TEEN</a> </li> </ul> </section> Tue, 04 Aug 2015 21:39:04 +0000 WebAdminKith 48844 at https://www.kidsinthehouse.com https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teen/when-you-discover-your-teen-has-been-drinking#comments