What to say instead of "No!"

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Do you know that there's been a recent study that shows that the average one year old hears the word "no" about 345 times a day. That's not an exaggeration, that's actually a statistic. The problem with saying no over and over again, is that the child begins to tune it out. Also, just in saying "no," the toddler or baby doesn't, necessarily, know what they should do instead. You want to create an environment that helps the baby to learn instead. To a typical example would be if a toddler is throwing a hard toy, for instance. Instead of saying, "No, don't throw that toy." You let him know, "I don't want you to throw that toy because it is hard and might hurt something. If you want to throw something, you can throw this ball."

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Lisa Sunbury, MA

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Lisa Sunbury has dedicated her life to caring for, supporting, and advocating for infants, toddlers, and their parents. She has over 20 years experience working in the field of Early Childhood Education, in a variety of roles. After earning a master’s degree in Early Childhood Education from Lesley University, she worked as a nanny, and as an infant/toddler teacher in several respected childcare programs. While attending a workshop led by Diana Suskind, which focused on the unique needs of infants and toddlers in child care centers, she was introduced to Magda Gerber’s philosophy of infant care. Intrigued by Magda’s work, she went on to study with her for three years at the original home of RIE (Resources For Infant Educarers), in Silver Lake, California. There she earned a certificate of completion in the program to become a RIE Associate. She has taught RIE Foundations through University of California Santa Barbara, presented at several early childhood conferences, and had her writing published in the RIE Newsletter and the Giant Encyclopedia of Activities for Infants and Toddlers. Her most recent work has included growing her website, Regarding Baby, and caring for a wonderful family that includes two young children. She maintains professional memberships with the National Association of Early Childhood Education (NAEYC) and RIE, and is proud to serve on the board at Santa Cruz Toddler Center.

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Do you know that there's been a recent study that shows that the average one year old hears the word "no" about 345 times a day. That's not an exaggeration, that's actually a statistic. The problem with saying no over and over again, is that the child begins to tune it out. Also, just in saying "no," the toddler or baby doesn't, necessarily, know what they should do instead. You want to create an environment that helps the baby to learn instead. To a typical example would be if a toddler is throwing a hard toy, for instance. Instead of saying, "No, don't throw that toy." You let him know, "I don't want you to throw that toy because it is hard and might hurt something. If you want to throw something, you can throw this ball."