Adoptive families are different because adoptive children have two sets of parents. Adoptive parents, us, I am an adoptive parent. Also, birth parents, who they were born to. Very often, society wants to minimize that distinction because we are afraid that our children won't feel as connected to their adoptive parents, if they are thinking about their birth parents. Who wouldn't think about the parents they were born to. I haven't met an adoptive child, and I work with them, that doesn't wonder why what happened to them; who their birth parents were, and the circumstances. I say to parents, we need to talk about these parents. We need to reject the notion that, somehow, if children think about their birth parents, it means they don't love their adoptive parents. In fact, I would say to you, it's the opposite. If I know I can trust you to talk about something that is dangerous or a little competitive, then I know I can trust you. I can trust that we really are connected. It is really important that we acknowledge those people. I remember when my daughter was 7, I turned to her and I said, "We haven't talked to about your birth mother in a little bit." She turned to me -- I said to her, "You know, I want you to know, it's okay with me if you love her." That little 7 year old turned to me and she started crying. That's a clue, folks, these kids are thinking about this. We don't want to leave our little 7 year old babies thinking about something this complicated, this important, this moving, to do by themselves. We need to talk about it.