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Just because someone is a guy, doesn't make them a sexual predator. So just because you have a husband, a boyfriend, an uncle or any other male, does not mean that by virtue of being a male, you are going to automatically abuse a child. You have to look at people who want to spend time with your kid. How many people want to spend time with kids on their free time? How many people have kids come over to their house when they don't have kids themselves? Anybody who has an over interest in spending time with your kid or your kid alone, should raise a red flag. For me, as a mom, I don't want to spend time with anybody's kid unless it is going to help me or help my kid. There is no reason to spend time with kids unless you either have kids and you want to help your kids, it's your job, or you are an abuser. If someone is volunteering to hang out with your kid, you have to ask yourself: Why? They should be getting paid to do it. They should have kids themselves. If they don't, you have to wonder why they are choosing to spend time with your kid. I had a situation where I was looking for a driver to drive my step-kids to school. I would get responses that would say, "I'll do it for $2.00 an hour." Anybody who is willing to give you a huge deal or a huge break, you have to ask yourself why. To me, there are only three reasons you would want to hang out with kids. It's either your job, and you are getting paid. Two, you have kids and it's going to help your kid or your family. Three, you are a predator. If you can't figure out which category it's in, you better not have your kid hang out with them.

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Robin is a legal analyst for Fox11 Los Angeles (KTTV). She appears there daily offering legal insight and analysis as well as parenting and safety expertise.  She also regularly contributes her legal and parenting expertise to The TODAY Show, Entertainment Tonight, Good Morning America, CNN, and HLN. She covers both the unknown and known high profile cases including Conrad Murray, Charlie Sheen, Lindsay Lohan, Casey Anthony, Jaycee Dugard, OJ Simpson and many more.

Robin is also a former Los Angeles County Deputy District Attorney and Riverside County Deputy District Attorney who specialized in sex crimes against children. For over 15 years she prosecuted some of the most despicable defendants who committed the most heinous crimes, prosecuting hundreds of felony crimes including homicides, stalking, domestic violence, child sexual assault, and gang crimes. 

She is an author who has penned six books, including The Complete Idiot's Guide to the Criminal Justice System and Predators and Child Molesters:  A Sex Crimes DA Answers 100 of the Most Asked Questions all of which draw on her vast experience as a prosecutor and victim right's advocate. Her powerful insights have regularly graced the pages of The Huffington Post, Psychology Today, People Magazine, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, The Los Angeles Times and the Women in Crime Ink blog.

In addition to advising numerous legal foundations, Robin regularly shares her valuable insight and expertise through speaking and teaching with members of the FBI, Los Angeles Police Department, Sheriff’s Department, and the California District Attorney’s Association. Robin has served as adjunct professor of Women and Crime at Cal State Los Angeles and lecturer on criminal law and the justice system in UCLA’s Paralegal Training Program.

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Just because someone is a guy, doesn't make them a sexual predator. So just because you have a husband, a boyfriend, an uncle or any other male, does not mean that by virtue of being a male, you are going to automatically abuse a child. You have to look at people who want to spend time with your kid. How many people want to spend time with kids on their free time? How many people have kids come over to their house when they don't have kids themselves? Anybody who has an over interest in spending time with your kid or your kid alone, should raise a red flag. For me, as a mom, I don't want to spend time with anybody's kid unless it is going to help me or help my kid. There is no reason to spend time with kids unless you either have kids and you want to help your kids, it's your job, or you are an abuser. If someone is volunteering to hang out with your kid, you have to ask yourself: Why? They should be getting paid to do it. They should have kids themselves. If they don't, you have to wonder why they are choosing to spend time with your kid. I had a situation where I was looking for a driver to drive my step-kids to school. I would get responses that would say, "I'll do it for $2.00 an hour." Anybody who is willing to give you a huge deal or a huge break, you have to ask yourself why. To me, there are only three reasons you would want to hang out with kids. It's either your job, and you are getting paid. Two, you have kids and it's going to help your kid or your family. Three, you are a predator. If you can't figure out which category it's in, you better not have your kid hang out with them.