There are a lot of challenges that come with not being the first wife or the first mother. In a lot of ways, I think we are conditioned to always want to be the first. But I can wish upon a star all my lifelong, that my husband was never married, didn't have a wife, and didn't experience fatherhood; but I can't rewrite his history. Instead, I choose to leverage his experiences as a father and as a husband because he's really good at it. He's had a lot of practice. In turn, he gets to leverage my experiences having been a step child and having a close relationship with my step mom. It all works out in the end because we both come to the table with a lot of experiences. Plus, with a little creativity, we create a lot of firsts and first experiences all the time.