Allowing teens to have sex at home

Amy Lang, MA Sex Education Expert, shares advice for parents on whether or not it is a good idea to allow your sexually active teenage child to have sex in their own home
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Allowing teens to have sex at home

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Some people consider letting their children have sex in their own home when they know their teenager is sexually active. I think that this is often times a good idea. Kids who are having sex, they're gonna have sex wherever they can, and I believe it's safer for them to have sex in your home where you know they're in a safe place and they have access to birth control and condoms. This is definitely a values-based decision for you and something you should think clearly about. Lots of people have judgments and assumptions about what it means if you allow your child to have sex in your own home. So in countries where they have much better success in terms of their teens sexual health, those children have sex in their parents homes, and those children do better; fewer teen pregnancies, less sexually transmitted infections.

Amy Lang, MA Sex Education Expert, shares advice for parents on whether or not it is a good idea to allow your sexually active teenage child to have sex in their own home

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Amy Lang, MA

Sex Education Expert

Despite her 16 years of experience as a sexual health educator, Amy Lang found herself completely tongue-tied when her four year old son had "something very important" to tell her about his penis. Shocked by her discomfort, she realized if she was struggling, other parents must be too. Amy also holds an MA in Applied Behavioral Science and her focus was in adult education and group facilitation. She decided to combine her love of sex talking and her love of working with adults and started Birds + Bees + Kids in 2006.

Amy is a three time Mom’s Choice Award winner for her book, Birds + Bees + YOUR Kids - A Guide To Sharing Your Beliefs About Sexuality, Love and Relationships and DVD, Birds + Bees + Kids - The Basics. She is also the author of the book, Say What?! The Birds + Bees for Progressive Parents - What to Say and How to Say It!

She has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, Seattle Magazine, Parent Map magazine and has contributed to a gazillion other publications. Sex advice guru Dan Savage says “Amy is a parent’s best friend-with-benefits when it comes to talking to kids about sex.” 

Though Birds + Bees + Kids, Amy helps parents of all beliefs have easy, open and effective conversations about sexuality, love and relationships with their kids. She offers talks, workshops, one-on-one consultations and live webcasts. Amy is also the co-founder of MamaCON - Inspiration and Tools for Modern Moms, a conference supporting the hard work of moms everywhere.

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Some people consider letting their children have sex in their own home when they know their teenager is sexually active. I think that this is often times a good idea. Kids who are having sex, they're gonna have sex wherever they can, and I believe it's safer for them to have sex in your home where you know they're in a safe place and they have access to birth control and condoms. This is definitely a values-based decision for you and something you should think clearly about. Lots of people have judgments and assumptions about what it means if you allow your child to have sex in your own home. So in countries where they have much better success in terms of their teens sexual health, those children have sex in their parents homes, and those children do better; fewer teen pregnancies, less sexually transmitted infections.