When sexual abuse is happening at home

Robin Sax, Attorney & Legal Analyst, shares advice on the proper steps to take if a child is being sexually abused by your partner or one of the child's parents
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When sexual abuse is happening at home

Even if a child discloses that the sexual perpetrator who is abusing them is their husband or their boyfriend, parents should not take this into their own hand. They should not try to entrap their spouse. They should not try to utilize what happened in the course of the sexual assault investigation in the criminal court. Leave criminal investigate to the court. Leave the divorce proceedings to the lawyers. There is a presumption that, if there is a divorce going on, that the abuse is feigned about or lied. I personally don't agree with that. I think that many kids finally feel comfortable in disclosing the abuse when the perpetrator is removed from the house. I urge parents not to draw any conclusion whatsoever. Not to draw the conclusion that, because there is a divorce, it did happen; or just because there's a divorce, it didn't happen. A proper investigation where the facts lead to the conclusion, not the other way around. The conclusion should not lead the facts.

Robin Sax, Attorney & Legal Analyst, shares advice on the proper steps to take if a child is being sexually abused by your partner or one of the child's parents


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Robin Sax

Attorney & Legal Analyst

Robin is a legal analyst for Fox11 Los Angeles (KTTV). She appears there daily offering legal insight and analysis as well as parenting and safety expertise.  She also regularly contributes her legal and parenting expertise to The TODAY Show, Entertainment Tonight, Good Morning America, CNN, and HLN. She covers both the unknown and known high profile cases including Conrad Murray, Charlie Sheen, Lindsay Lohan, Casey Anthony, Jaycee Dugard, OJ Simpson and many more.

Robin is also a former Los Angeles County Deputy District Attorney and Riverside County Deputy District Attorney who specialized in sex crimes against children. For over 15 years she prosecuted some of the most despicable defendants who committed the most heinous crimes, prosecuting hundreds of felony crimes including homicides, stalking, domestic violence, child sexual assault, and gang crimes. 

She is an author who has penned six books, including The Complete Idiot's Guide to the Criminal Justice System and Predators and Child Molesters:  A Sex Crimes DA Answers 100 of the Most Asked Questions all of which draw on her vast experience as a prosecutor and victim right's advocate. Her powerful insights have regularly graced the pages of The Huffington Post, Psychology Today, People Magazine, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, The Los Angeles Times and the Women in Crime Ink blog.

In addition to advising numerous legal foundations, Robin regularly shares her valuable insight and expertise through speaking and teaching with members of the FBI, Los Angeles Police Department, Sheriff’s Department, and the California District Attorney’s Association. Robin has served as adjunct professor of Women and Crime at Cal State Los Angeles and lecturer on criminal law and the justice system in UCLA’s Paralegal Training Program.

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