Staying out of sibling disagreements

Betsy Brown Braun, MA Parent Educator and Author, shares advice for parents on the best way to respond when your children are fighting amongst each other
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Staying out of sibling disagreements

Sibling rivalry. The thing about sibling rivalry is that it is normal, it is natural, and it's inevitable. Even if parents do everything right, you are still going to have sibling rivalry. Because two kids in a family, they fight. Sibling relationships are so interesting because they live in the funny waters of love and hate; they love each other and they hate each other. The reality is it means more to you than it does to the children. My advice is about sibling rivalry is very simple. Here it is; butt out. Here's what I mean by that. When a parent gets involved in sibling fighting, he tends to be in the role of judge and jury. When that happens, inevitably, you are showing favoritism towards one child or the other. We don't want that to happen. Stand back, listen to what's happening, or if you can't stand the noise, go in your bedroom and close the door, that will stop it right away. Stand back and listen. If it is something that they really need help in solving, then you can get involved.

Betsy Brown Braun, MA Parent Educator and Author, shares advice for parents on the best way to respond when your children are fighting amongst each other


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Betsy Brown Braun, MA

Parent Educator & Author

Betsy Brown Braun, best-selling author of both Just Tell Me What to Say: Sensible Tips and Scripts for Perplexed Parents and You’re Not The Boss Of Me: Brat-proofing Your Four To Twelve Year-Old, is a child development and behavior specialist, parent educator, multiple birth parenting consultant, and founder of Parenting Pathways, Inc.

With over 40 years of experience in public and private early childhood and elementary education, Betsy has directed and founded school programs, taught in both public and private schools, has been a school director, and was the founding director of Wilshire Boulevard Temple’s Early Childhood Center. She holds an MA in Human Development and teaching credentials from Pacific Oaks College.

In 2001 Betsy founded Parenting Pathways, Inc. to provide guidance to parents seeking the skills and confidence needed to negotiate the often-challenging parenting pathway. She leads parenting groups, seminars, and offers private parent consultations throughout the nation.

Her bestseller, Just Tell Me What To Say, in its fourth printing,presents the tried and true tools her clients use daily to handle situations that inevitably accompany raising children ages two to six and beyond. Her second book, and second bestseller, You’re Not The Boss Of Me: Brat-Proofing Your Kidsalso in its fourth printing, is the ultimate hands-on guide to cultivating character traits that are tried-and-true "bratbusters." 

Betsy brings her vast knowledge, sensitivity, and special brand of humor to her parent consultations, to her groups, and to her presentations.

Her parenting expertise has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, U.S. News & World Report, Cookie, Family Circle, Good Housekeeping, In Style, Parenting, Parents, Pregnancy and Newborn, Twins, Woman’s Day, and Working Mother, among other publications. She has shared her expertise on the Today Show multiple times. Other television appearances have included The Early Show, Good Morning America Now!, Fox & Friends, Rachel Ray, Dr. Phil,  The Talk, Entertainment Tonight, KCBS, KNBC, and Fox News LA. She contributes to KNX news radio on child development, and has been a guest on countless radio programs nationwide, including NPR. She writes for and has been cited in numerous websites and parenting blogs. Betsy is a frequent speaker at educational conferences, schools, and businesses.

Betsy and her husband Ray Braun are parents of adult triplets.

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