Large families and sibling rivalry

Derreck Kayogo, Founder of the Global Soap Project, explains how even in large families in the village he group of in Africa have sibling rivalry within them and the benefits of that sibling rivalry
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Large families and sibling rivalry

Is there sibling getting along? I don't think so. They're constantly fighting. But I think kids, large families create an interesting dynamic. They teach you how to exist in large communities, if you want to put it that way. And they teach you how to share, because the resources are finite. Everybody doesn't get to get what they want. But it also teaches you how to be a good conflict resolution, deal making guy. And that's what I think, large families teach you to appreciate the gathering of a lot of friendships. I'm very good friends with all my siblings. And yes, we fought a lot. But I'm very good friends. And I think the way I have used that particular friendship to do my work is then I'm not scared to approach people and say I need this. Because if you were scared you would never get what you wanted because then everybody would take it. So you learn how to ask and ask quickly and being a pest sometimes. But I think rivalries can only be dealt with with a little bit of empathy. I have yet to understand why my older siblings were trying to fight so hard for something, because they needed something more than I needed it. Now we're much more humbled and much more appreciative of people's needs. Because now we get into fights and we don't need these things and much as the other person does. So explaining myself is a very good way of coming out of a rivalry. And understanding the other person is the second piece. It really solves problems.

Derreck Kayogo, Founder of the Global Soap Project, explains how even in large families in the village he group of in Africa have sibling rivalry within them and the benefits of that sibling rivalry


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Derreck Kayongo is a social entrepreneur and the founder of The Global Soap Project. An executive and development expert, Derreck Kayongo has more than 15 years experience developing strategic social campaigns within organizations for cause-related advocacy, public policy, issue management, and community organizing. His work has made a profound contribution in raising awareness aimed at realizing permanent solutions to global poverty.

Kayongo’s journey from child refugee to fearless visionary is filled with moments of inspiration (along with the benefits of good, old-fashioned sweat equity) that make him one of the most popular – and authentic – speakers on the circuit today. From Africa to Atlanta with nothing but a dream and tenacity, Kayongo beat the odds, earned an education, and has served in leadership roles in some of the world’s most respected non-governmental agencies (NGOs) since 1994. Today, he shares his vivacious spirit and invaluable experience in the areas entrepreneurship, environmental sustainability, global health, social justice and professional engagement with audiences in both the corporate and not-for-profit worlds.

Derreck Kayongo’s ability to motivate others to understand the role their work and skills can play in problem solving is one of the many reasons he was chosen as a finalist for the 2011 CNN Hero of the Year AwardAdd to that the mantra of being a voice for the voiceless through his noble work of giving back, including dedicating his life to improving the lives of marginalized and vulnerable people across the globe: he has worked with the American Friends Service Committee as Program Director for the Southeast Peace Education program; joined Amnesty International as the Director of the Southeast Region; and currently serves as Senior Advocacy Coordinator for the Southeast region with CARE International.

In 2009, Kayongo and his wife Sarah embarked on a new journey pursuing their life-long passion of starting an NGO of their own. The Global Soap Project focuses on repurposing partially-used soap from hotels into new soap for needy populations, particularly in Africa. To date, The Global Soap Project has been able to donate 9,000 bars of soap to Swaziland, 5,000 bars to Kenya, 10,000 to Ghana, 1,000 to Uganda and another 3,000 to Haiti.

Derreck Kayongo is a proud naturalized U.S. citizen. He has been recognized as a 2011 CNN HEROES finalist and a COX Enterprise nominee; honored by Congressman John Lewis with a Certificate of Congressional Recognition; is currently writing his autobiography; has been featured in more than 20 news stories in the U.S., featured on Fox News as part of the Real American story series; featured on CNN with Fredricka Whitfield.

Since 1994, Derreck Kayongo has given more than 300 speeches on key issues related to poverty reduction in Africa; mainly on water and sanitation, soap, HIV/AIDS, Child Soldiers, Health and Sanitation, Impact of Landmines in Africa, Countries in Conflict and role of basic Education for Girls in Africa.

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