Unrealistic expectations parents have about children

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Unrealistic expectations parents have about children

Having unrealistic expectations of your kids is damaging because it sets a precedent where your child is trying to reach a goal they are probably not going to get to. When a child has a goal that they work towards, and they know that they can't get there, they are going to start feeling bad about themselves. The worse they feel about themselves, the less we will see them trying. What we want to do is set expectations for our child, have an idea about their potential, and know how hard they can push themselves. But make it so that they can get there. When we see self-esteem being built it is through success and achievement. That has everything to do with the expectations you set for your child. Figure out what your child's limits are, expect them to get there, but don't push them too hard because we want them to be healthy and happy.

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Rebecca Eberlin, PhD


I am a California state licensed psychologist, who specializes in providing evidence-based treatment and assessment to children, adults and families with a variety of emotional, behavioral and developmental challenges.

A proud Wolverine, I graduated from the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor with Bachelor of Arts degrees in Psychology and Political Science. I then returned to California and completed my Doctoral training at Pacific Graduate School of Psychology, an APA accredited pre-doctoral internship at Sharp HealthCare, and a post-doctoral fellowship at the Children’s Health Council.

I relocated to Los Angeles in the summer of 2011 to conduct prevention-focused research at UCLA’s Semel Institute of Neuroscience and Human Behavior at the Global Center for Children and Families. During my time at UCLA, I became the lead psychologist and Director of Services and Operations at the UCLA Family Commons in Santa Monica.

Throughout the course of my career, my research and treatment interests have included working with children, adolescents and adults who struggle with behavioral and emotional challenges, such as depression, anxiety, impulse control disorders, developmental disabilities and other family-based issues. I also conduct parent education seminars that focus on a wide variety of issues including resiliency, stress, relationships, social media and friendship and bullying.

While my primary location is West Los Angeles, I also have offices in Northern California. If you are interested in obtaining coaching or cognitive testing services in the Bay Area, please do not hesitate to contact me.

Please please visit my website to learn more about me, my practice and how therapy can work for you.

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