How gender affects values

JoAnn Deak, PhD Psychologist & Author, explains how gender can have an affect on the values and morals that children have up until the age of fifteen to twenty
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How gender affects values

One of the hardest question I am every asked is gender differences in terms of values and morals and are there differences. I worked for six years with Carol Gilligan out of Harvard, who did the seminal work in looking at differences in males and females and moral development. So that there are some differences is fairly well documented. Often girls have what we call a caring orientation, meaning they make their moral decisions on the impact on human beings. Boys in general have what we call a justice orientation. What is the rule? Is the rule that we do this or that we do not that? So they are more rule based or more abstract and girls are more relational. And we see those patterns with about 80% of girls in one category of the caring, connected and 8'% of boys in the justice rule and 20% of girls and boys tend to be more like the other. And so, that orientation is there. That is how you come into the world. But then, your morals and values are stretched and changed by how you are raised and how you are influenced in the first. Most people only give you 15 years. I am generous. I will say 20. Your moral code is very well adjusted by age 20 and you spend most of the rest of your life getting clear about it after that.

JoAnn Deak, PhD Psychologist & Author, explains how gender can have an affect on the values and morals that children have up until the age of fifteen to twenty


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JoAnn Deak, PhD

Psychologist & Author

JoAnn Deak, PhD, has spent more than 30 years as an educator and psychologist, helping children develop into confident and competent adults. The latter half of that period has also focused on working with adults, parents and teachers in their roles as guides or ‘neurosculptors’ of children. On her website is a quote that best describes her perspective on her work: “every interaction a child has, during the course of a day, influences the adult that child will become.”

Parents and educators at schools from New York to Hawaii, as well as such organizations as the National Association of School Psychologists, the National Association of Independent Schools, the Association of International Schools, the American Montessori Society and the International Baccalaureate Association, have heralded Dr. Deak’s ability to demystify complex issues of child development, learning, identify formation and brain research.

Dr. Deak has been an advisor to Outward Bound, a past chair of the National Committee for Girls and Women in Independent Schools, on the advisory board for the Center on Research for Girls (Laurel School), for the Seattle Girls’ School, Bromley Brook School, the Red Oak School, Power Play and GOAL. She consults with organizations and schools across the United States. Most recently, she has worked internationally with schools, organizations, associations and parent groups in every continent (except Antarctica!) She has been awarded the Woman of Achievement Award by the National Coalition of Girls’ Schools, was given the first Female Educator of the Year Award by Orchard House School, and the Outstanding Partner for Girls Award from Clemson University. She has been named the Visiting Scholar in New Zealand, the Visiting Scholar for Montessori Children’s House and has been the Resident Scholar for the Gardner Carney Leadership Institute in Colorado Springs for the past five years.

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