Should I pick up my crying baby?

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Should I pick up my crying baby?

For me, the question becomes, should you pick your baby up when she is crying? When your baby is crying, the first thing I tell parents is to take a minute, and rather than come in and scoop the baby up, come in and say to the baby, "I hear you crying. Would you like me to pick you up?" There's a difference between reacting and thinking that we know what is best for the baby and communicating. Very young babies cry is their way of communicating. They can be crying for many reasons. Instead of assuming, "I know what the baby needs." Enter into a conversation with the baby. "Why are you crying? I'm here and I want to help." The more that we do that, the more that the baby responds.

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Lisa Sunbury, MA

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Lisa Sunbury has dedicated her life to caring for, supporting, and advocating for infants, toddlers, and their parents. She has over 20 years experience working in the field of Early Childhood Education, in a variety of roles. After earning a master’s degree in Early Childhood Education from Lesley University, she worked as a nanny, and as an infant/toddler teacher in several respected childcare programs. While attending a workshop led by Diana Suskind, which focused on the unique needs of infants and toddlers in child care centers, she was introduced to Magda Gerber’s philosophy of infant care. Intrigued by Magda’s work, she went on to study with her for three years at the original home of RIE (Resources For Infant Educarers), in Silver Lake, California. There she earned a certificate of completion in the program to become a RIE Associate. She has taught RIE Foundations through University of California Santa Barbara, presented at several early childhood conferences, and had her writing published in the RIE Newsletter and the Giant Encyclopedia of Activities for Infants and Toddlers. Her most recent work has included growing her website, Regarding Baby, and caring for a wonderful family that includes two young children. She maintains professional memberships with the National Association of Early Childhood Education (NAEYC) and RIE, and is proud to serve on the board at Santa Cruz Toddler Center.

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