When I'm talking to a birth mother for the first time, I'm looking for why she's doing this. Is she doing it out of spite for the birth father? Is she in a situation where she really has no other choice but to place the child up for adoption? Does what she's telling me make sense? And I look to whether she follows through, whether she promptly returns the forms to me, whether she returns my phone calls, whether she goes to the doctor, whether she talks to the attorney that we may line up for her in where she is. All of those things are indications that she's committed to the adoption. Now, if she calls me and I don't hear from her for two weeks or she doesn't send the forms back, I'm starting to think she was just calling to get information or to tell the birth father that she's thinking of putting the child up for adoption. "See, I got this letter from a lawyer," and instead see how he responds. So I think you need to look to patterns of behavior that are consistent with the desire to place a child up for adoption and follow through with the plan.