Insensitive comments about transracial families

Rory Hadley, Blogger & Mom, shares advice for parents of transracial families on how to best handle insensitive comments people make about your family
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Insensitive comments about transracial families

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Being a transracial family and you go out in public, you are often subject to comments from people sometimes that you do not even know that will come up and tell you their opinion of your family. And these comments are not always friendly. They are not always appropriate. A few of the comments that we have received were we were asked if our daughter was addicted to drugs, and this is in front of my daughter. We were asked if her mother was a crack whore. We were asked if we were going to adopt an American, why didn´t we get a white one. And all of these questions are asked in front of my daughter. And I think the best way to handle these situations is to lead by example. My daughter is standing there so how she sees me responding to these things is how she will likely respond to them herself in the future. So what I like to teach my daughter is that she is valid to be angry about some of the insensitive and cruel comments that are going to come at her but I want her to be slow to anger. And so, I try to approach that in the same way. I have to make a quick decision when dealing with people out in public about what I am going to share and what I am not going to share. But I always have to remember that my daughter is watching and she is going to take my comments to heart, more than a total stranger will.

Rory Hadley, Blogger & Mom, shares advice for parents of transracial families on how to best handle insensitive comments people make about your family

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Rory Hadley

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Rory is a wife, a blogger, and a transracial adoptive parent of an African American girl, who joined the family through domestic adoption in 2007 at a mere six days old. A self-described tomboy and computer geek, Rory had little knowledge regarding her own hair, not to mention no prior experience with the unique hair and skincare needs of children of African descent. Making it her mission to learn everything that she could, Rory started chronicling her experiences for other parents who have found find themselves in similar situations. Since the launch of her blog, Chocolate Hair / Vanilla Care in 2010, people from all over the world have been able to share in her journey as she demonstrates new hair styles, outlines step-by-step instructions, reviews products, and discusses the many aspects of what it means to be a transracial family in today's world. Rory hopes to continue exploring identity, respect, and empowerment, using hair as a common language.

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