Although it might be tempting for a parent to point out the wrongs of the other spouse to make the child your ally. You have to remember that number 1, the judge will always see that as bad because the judge never wants the child involved on the conflict, and that will ultimately work against you in the judge's decision for custody. It's very important relative to the judge more importantly is really for the child's welfare. You never want the child seeing one parent in a worse light because your child loves and needs both parents and when they heard something bad about one parent it never serves their interest long term. You always would rather be the parent saying nice things and saying your mother loves you, I love you we see different on some things but that's okay we're both here with you forever.