Ways to support friends dealing with loss

Kim Hamer, Widow & Founder of "Exactly What They Need", shares advice on some great ways to support someone who has lost a spouse, sibling, or child
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Ways to support friends dealing with loss

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Here's a great way you can support someone who has lost a spouse, a sibling, or a child. The first thing is, just sit with them. Allow them to be. In this country, we feel the need to fix things, but you can't fix loss. Be patient with them and allow them to feel their feelings. The second thing you can do is, don't rush in right away. Take your time. They need you at a year and a half after the event, just as much as they need you in the beginning. The third thing is, don't be afraid to honor and recognize birthdays, death dates, or anniversaries. Usually around those dates, a person feels very lonely and they feel like no one else remembers. If you just take that moment to send them a little card or send them or give them a call to tell them that you remember. It means a great deal to them.

Kim Hamer, Widow & Founder of "Exactly What They Need", shares advice on some great ways to support someone who has lost a spouse, sibling, or child

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100 Acts of Love: A Girlfriend's Guide to Loving A Friend Through Cancer or Loss

Kim Hamer is the author of 100 Acts of Love: A Girlfriend's Guide to Loving Your Friend through Cancer or Loss, a modern, essential how-to guide offering tips on what to say (and NOT to say), and specific ways to support and love a friend, co-worker or family member who is coping with cancer, loss or any crisis.

Kim Hamer became a widow after her 44-year old husband lost his life to cancer. Their children were 12, 9 and 7 at the time. Before and after her husband’s death, friends and supporters came up with unique, creative and simple ways to help her family. She called them “acts of love” because it’s what they felt like.

Her book is a fun, straightforward compilation of many of those acts. The mission of “100 Acts of Love” is to help everyone understand and embrace their importance in the lives of their friend in crisis and to provide the tools and courage needed to support them in a truly meaningful and helpful way.

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