Learning how to say no

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Learning how to say no

As a parent it's important for you to say no to your children. And even if you can afford to give them some of the things they want, it's important to say no. If children get everything they want, they don't learn how to feel frustrated and how to cope with frustration. Delay of gratification is in fact the best predictor of successes in adults. If you as an adult, spend the money as soon as you get it, or spend money that you don't have in hand, you're going to be in trouble. Saying no to children, teaches them to take care of feelings of frustration and to delay until they get something for a while. That's a huge skill. Help your children by saying no.

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Dr. Rotheram-Borus has spent the past 20 years developing, evaluating, and disseminating evidence-based interventions for children and families. She has worked extensively with adolescents, especially those at risk for substance abuse, HIV, homelessness, depression, suicide, and long-term unemployment. Dr. Rotheram-Borus has directed and implemented several landmark intervention studies that have demonstrated the benefits of providing behavior change programs and support to families in risky situations. Several of these programs have received national and international recognition, including designation as model programs by the American Psychological Association, the American Medical Association, and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Currently, Dr. Rotheram-Borus has ongoing projects in Uganda, China, and South Africa, as well as the United States. Dr. Rotheram-Borus has authored or co-authored more than 200 journal articles, including publications in Science, the Journal of the American Medical Association, and the American Journal of Public Health. She has received more than 40 grants from the National Institute of Mental Health and the National Institute on Drug Abuse to design prevention programs for children and families at high risk for HIV, mental health problems, suicide, and substance abuse. In 2001, Science identified her as number two of the top-funded NIH multi-grant recipients; she was the only woman in the top ten.

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