Seeking help for bullying

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Seeking help for bullying

If your child is being teased or bullied in school, you seek help when your child feels totally ineffective to stop it. First, your job is to help your child try three or four different ways, three or four different times to stop the teasing or bullying. Included in that is that your child goes to the teacher or the adult present, when the bullying occurs. Only when your child has failed, when you practice with them ahead of time, they make a plan as to how they are going to take care of it. They go an implement that plan and it fails. They ask the bully, "Stop it. I don't like it." They talk to their friends and get their friends to ask the bully to stop doing it. They have tried in different ways to walk away, to stop the situation, and they've gone to the teacher and told the teacher and asked for teacher intervention. If after three or four strategies are tried and your child is still being consistently teased or consistently bullied, it is time for you to do something.

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Dr. Rotheram-Borus has spent the past 20 years developing, evaluating, and disseminating evidence-based interventions for children and families. She has worked extensively with adolescents, especially those at risk for substance abuse, HIV, homelessness, depression, suicide, and long-term unemployment. Dr. Rotheram-Borus has directed and implemented several landmark intervention studies that have demonstrated the benefits of providing behavior change programs and support to families in risky situations. Several of these programs have received national and international recognition, including designation as model programs by the American Psychological Association, the American Medical Association, and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Currently, Dr. Rotheram-Borus has ongoing projects in Uganda, China, and South Africa, as well as the United States. Dr. Rotheram-Borus has authored or co-authored more than 200 journal articles, including publications in Science, the Journal of the American Medical Association, and the American Journal of Public Health. She has received more than 40 grants from the National Institute of Mental Health and the National Institute on Drug Abuse to design prevention programs for children and families at high risk for HIV, mental health problems, suicide, and substance abuse. In 2001, Science identified her as number two of the top-funded NIH multi-grant recipients; she was the only woman in the top ten.

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