Learning to cope with frustration

Parent Educator & Author Mary Hartzell, MEd, shares advice for parents on how to teach your children to properly cope with their frustration and anger in life
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Learning to cope with frustration

It's very important to tolerate your child's frustration because if you can't tolerate their frustration, how are they going to learn to tolerate it themselves. And also you realize if you can't tolerate it, what will you probably do? You'll probably give them whatever they're crying or whining for and they find out that if they cry and whine long enough or loud enough, you're going to give in. And that makes if very hard then for you to be credible when something really is important for you to set a boundary and them to know that, 'oh Mom's not going to change her mind.' So it's very helpful for children to begin learning this when they're toddlers because children feel better when they have more control. Anybody does. So you're helping them to learn how to wait for what they want and that's a skill that's going to do them, be very good for them in life. It's not immediately always getting what they want.

Parent Educator & Author Mary Hartzell, MEd, shares advice for parents on how to teach your children to properly cope with their frustration and anger in life


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Mary Hartzell, MEd

Author & Parent Educator

Mary Hartzell has over 30 years experience working with children, parents and teachers. She is the director of The First Presbyterian Nursery School, a nationally recognized early childhood program in Santa Monica, California. She is co-author of Parenting from the Inside Out and also has created a series of CDs on Parent/Child Relationships. Her parent education classes and her private consulting practice have benefited hundreds of families.

Mary began her career teaching in the public school system and completed her master’s degree in early childhood education and psychology at the University of California in Los Angeles. She taught in the early childhood unit at the UCLA Lab School and supervised student teachers. 

Mary is the mother of three grown children and has four grandchildren. During the years she was raising her own children she taught in the gifted program of the Los Angeles Unified Schools, primarily in South Central L.A. For the past 20 years Mary has been a workshop presenter at national, state and local conferences of the National Association of the Education of Young Children. She has been a lecturer at UCLA extension and is adjunct faculty at Santa Monica Community College in their early childhood department. She also provides workshops, teacher education and consulting with schools throughout the United States.

Mary has served as president of the North Bay Chapter of the Association for the Education of Young Children, Vice President of the Association of the Child Development Specialists. She was the recipient of the first Pediatric Aids Foundation’s “Hero’s Award” for her work with children and parents.

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