Picking up baby every time he/she cries?

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Picking up baby every time he/she cries?

Picking up the baby every time the baby cries is just a given. Why not? What is wrong with it? Some people say, Will I spoil it? Will it create bad habits? Absolutely not. How can love create bad habits? On the other hand, we have to understand that the most important thing is not to listen to any experts, me included. It is just to do what works well for you. Does it mean that every time your baby cries, you should pick them up? No. Does it mean that you should let your baby cry because, otherwise, you will spoil him? No. You have to do what makes you happy. If you are freaking out when you pick up the baby, it is actually worse than letting the baby just cry. The most important thing is, what do you want to do? What makes you happy? If you are crying while your baby is crying because somebody told you not to pick him up, that is also crazy. The middle way is the best way. There are no absolutes. Of course, the best way is to just be with your baby when he cries, not just shut him up in some fashion so he doesn't express himself.
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Giuditta Tornetta is a certified birth and post-partum doula, lactation educator, a certified clinical hypnotherapist, a NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) practitioner, and a certified shiatsu therapist. Giuditta practices clinical hypnotherapy and a method of natural childbirth that uses hypnotic techniques to reduce stress and fear during labor and delivery, alleviating pain and making the birth experience positive and enjoyable. She also teaches infant mental, emotional, and cognitive health and development.

She focuses on infant mental health and pre-post birth bonding, where she uses guided meditations and visualizations to help women communicate and empower their babies before birth. As a lactation educator and postpartum doula, Ms. Tornetta helps couples settle into a natural routine once the baby comes home. Through education, compassion, practical as wells as emotional support, Doula Giuditta teaches new parents how to decipher the newborn’s vocal and body language. Giuditta is also a published author of the best-selling book Painless Childbirth: An Empowering Journey Through Pregnancy and Birth.

She resides in Los Angeles with her two dogs –Tony and Amore — amid photo albums of the many new mommies and babies she’s coached through life’s most precious and powerful transitions, including her own two experiences with son Azzurro and daughter Natascia.

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