Avoiding mommy judgment

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Avoiding mommy judgment

So I think sometimes it's really difficult to not feel judged for parenting decisions, especially when you make decisions that some people disagree with or are outside the mainstream, things like elimination communication, or having a home birth, or cloth diapering, or all of these sort of difficult decisions, or even sort of bigger or more mainstream decisions like whether or not to stay at home or whether or not to work. And a lot of moms can get, or you can feel judged for those decisions and people get very defensive. And I found for myself the best way to deal was to remove myself from the equation. The internet is the worst; I put parental controls on my computer to block sites that made me angry because my husband couldn't stand the dinner conversations of me, "Oh why could she say that?" about strangers. So I blocked the forums that were more argumentative. And when I meet people in real life, at a mommy group or something, most of the people in my real life, most of my friends, are gonna be curious about my decisions. They're not going to really judge it and I don't have to feel defensive. And the few people that do and that seem to want to get into an argument, I think the best way is to just remove yourself from the equation. You don't have to discuss every parenting decision you make with every parent that you meet. You can simply talk about something else.

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Megan Macmanus

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Megan Hyndman is the mother to two-year-old Finnegan and a newborn, Saoirse. She is a writer, yoga teacher and private tutor and has recently started her own tutoring company, Honors Educational Services.  She and her husband Jason have been married since 2006, and since that time they’ve gone from a couple who thought they never wanted kids to a family of five, if you count the dog – and the 60-lb Rottweiler mix is definitely one of the kids.  The first baby under six months either parent ever saw was their own son, after a home birth, so they had to learn everything from scratch.  As a home birthing, cloth-diapering, infant potty-training, breastfeeding, sort of co-sleeping parent planning to home school, who also vaccinates, circumcises, disciplines, watches TV with Finn way more than she should and works full time, Megan doesn’t really fit into any “Mommy groups” – and that’s okay with her. Megan’s parenting philosophy is the same philosophy she tells her tutoring students: Use What Works for You.  

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