Tips for husbands on how to support your wife in the first year

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Tips for husbands on how to support your wife in the first year

The first year was actually the hardest because as a father you don't--other than just the innate connection you have to your child you don't really have the same responsibility, clearly, as the mother. There's that chemical connection, there's feeding, you know, nursing,. I think the first year for me was one of the hardest of my life because I was trying to, again, figure out how to be a fantastic dad and just not having any concept of how that happens. And I think the hardest part for the husband is that they feel in some ways like they disappear, and they don't know how to get through this. They don't know what their role is. The mother has so many clear, distinct responsibilities, and it took my wife finally asking me what was going on--I was trying to put up a good front that everything was okay for her. But what was the real breakthrough for us was that I realized that I needed some time, just any time within that first year, during the week to collect my thoughts, to be apart from my family so I could appreciate, recharge, and come back to my wife. And the same, because I had that opportunity she also had the same feeling that she could be away and was so excited by the time she returned, and I think we put a lot of responsibility on ourselves to try and be there, like that was how you proved you were a great parent, by being there. And I think it's so much healthier to take some time to separate and really get some perspective on what a bizarre and wonderful first year that is.

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Sam Jaeger portrays Joel Graham on NBC's drama series "Parenthood." Joel is Julia's (Erika Christensen) loyal husband and a stay-at-home dad. Jaeger's inherent talent and carefully selected roles have him poised to arrive as a major leading man in Hollywood.

On the horizon for Jaeger is the highly anticipated Spike Jonze film, "Her," which audiences will see in November of 2013. Jaeger plays Dr. Johnson and stars alongside Joaquin Phoenix and Scarlett Johansson. Also coming up is the his appearance in the independent dramatic thriller film "Emanuel and the Truth about Fishes,." He starrings alongside Jessica Biel and Alfred Molina in theand scheduled dramatic thriller to be released in the fall of 2013. In other previous film roles, Jaeger played Dennis opposite Jennifer Garner and Kevin Smith in the feature film "Catch and Release" also starring Jennifer Garner and Kevin Smithand Nick Fisher opposite Bruce Willis and Josh Hartnett in the indie hit "Lucky Number Slevin," which screened at the Sundance Film Festival in 2006. Additionally, Jaeger has such credits asappeared in the TV movie "The Riverman," opposite Carey Elwes and Bruce Greenwood., and the indie hit "Lucky Number Slevin," opposite Bruce Willis and Josh Hartnett. "Slevin" was also seen at the Sundance Film Festival in 2006.

Jaeger got his television start with a series of strong guest roles, and eventually landed as a series regular on the popular and enlightening ABC legal drama entitled "Eli Stone." Jaeger sStarringed opposite Victor Garber and Johnny Lee Miller in the enlightening series, playing Jaeger played Miller'san arrogant and combative co-worker to Miller. Success has also found Jaeger behind the camera with his critically acclaimed, award-winning feature film directorial debut "Take Me Home." Jaeger also wrote, directed, and starred in his featurethe movie film directorial debut along with Amber Jaeger, Victor Garber, and Bree Turner. The film was met with great critical acclaim.

While attending college in New York, Jaeger began his professional career in New York while attending collegeby, landing a guest-starring role on "Law & Order." He also spent several seasons doing theater in New York before making the move to Los Angeles, where. Once in Los Angeles he landed partswas cast in two the feature films, "Traffic" and "Behind Enemy Lines." After those standout rolesroles, he won a powerful role part opposite Bruce Willis and Colin Farrell in "Hart's War." In the years following, Jaeger built up an impressive television resume, including roles in such hits as "ER," "CSI," "The West Wing," "NYPD Blue," "Scrubs," "That's Life" and "Girls Club."

In addition to his film and small screen television credits, Jaeger has also co-written and co-produced two short films. The first of which, "Quiz Bowl," caught the eye of actress Kate Bosworth, who later agreed to star in his next short, "Advantage Hart." "Hart" had its premiere at the Hollywood Film Festival , and toured on the film festival circuit.

Jaeger enjoys engaging with his community and focuses much effort towards the conservation of the environment. He currently resides in Los Angeles.

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