How to help your shy child make friends

Carol Dweck, PhD Child Psychologist & Author, shares advice for parents on the best methods for helping your shy child engage and make friends
How to Help Your Shy Child Make Friends
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How to help your shy child make friends

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Research has shown that shyness can come out of a fixed mindset. In a fixed mindset, you are afraid that people are going to judge you if you say the wrong things, a silly thing, a stupid thing. They are going to judge you. If you go into a situation like that, you are going to feel timid and nervous. What should you do? You should tell your child that being in social situations is a way to have fun. It's a way to learn about other people. Ask them questions. Tell about yourself, they will be delighted to interact with you. Tell them to learn new things in these social situations so that the focus won't be on being judged, it will be on learning.

Carol Dweck, PhD Child Psychologist & Author, shares advice for parents on the best methods for helping your shy child engage and make friends

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Carol Dweck, PhD

Psychologist & Author

Carol S. Dweck, PhD, is a leading researcher in the field of motivation and is the Lewis and Virginia Eaton Professor of Psychology at Stanford. Her research focuses on why students succeed and how to foster their success. More specifically, her work has demonstrated the role of mindsets in success and has shown how praise for intelligence can undermine students’ motivation and learning.

She has also held professorships at and Columbia and Harvard Universities, has lectured to education, business, and sports groups all over the world, and has been elected to the American Academy of Arts and Sciences and to the National Academy of Sciences. She recently won the Distinguished Scientific Contribution Award from the American Psychological Association, the highest award in Psychology. 

Her work has been prominently featured in such publications as The New Yorker, Newsweek, Time, The New York Times, and The London Times, with recent feature stories on her work in the San Francisco Chronicle and the Washington Post, and she has appeared on such shows as Today, Good Morning America, NPR’s Morning Edition, and 20/20. Her bestselling book Mindset (published by Random House) has been widely acclaimed and has been translated into 20 languages.

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