Common concerns when pregnant with your second baby

Joshua Sparrow, MD Child Psychiatrist & Author, answers the common concerns that women tend to have when pregnant with their second child
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Common concerns when pregnant with your second baby

When a parent of a first child gets pregnant with a second, often they struggle with a question, “How will I have enough love to spread between the child I have and the child that I will have?” And it’s a scary thought. And yet, of course, we all find within ourselves plenty of love for all the children we have, and in fact, for other people’s children as well. And yet, some of the ways in which we try to help our first child handle the challenge of being a brand new big brother or big sister may be more about taking care of ourselves in that fear that we have that we’ve done something that somehow takes away from our first child. So one of the things we often do is to say to the oldest child, “You get to be a big brother.” “You get to be a big sister.” “Now you’re a big boy,” or “A big girl.” And what’s critical to remember is that sometimes that feels good and sometimes that works, but sometimes the first child still really just wants to be a baby again. So what we often don’t think about is that part of helping a child adjust to this new role – and actually, this is true even for teenage children when there is a new child – is to leave room for them to regress and to let you know, “I need less pressure right now and I need to know that you still have a little bit of something left in you for me to be your baby too.”

Joshua Sparrow, MD Child Psychiatrist & Author, answers the common concerns that women tend to have when pregnant with their second child


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Joshua Sparrow, MD

Child Psychiatrist & Author

A child psychiatrist, Dr. Sparrow’s care in the 1990s for children hospitalized for severe psychiatric disturbances, often associated with physical and sexual abuse, and for developmental delays aggravated by social and economic deprivation, prompted his interest in community-based prevention and health promotion. At the Brazelton Touchpoints Center, his work focuses on cultural adaptations of family support programs, organizational professional development, and aligning systems of care with community strengths and priorities, and has included collaborative consultation with the Harlem Children's Zone and American Indian Early Head Start Programs, among many others. He has lectured extensively nationally and internationally on related topics and has consulted on media programming for children and parents, including PBS’s Frontlines and Discovery Kids. Co-author with Dr. T. Berry Brazelton of 8 books and the weekly New York Times Syndicated column, “Families Today,” Dr. Sparrow has also served as a contributing editor to Scholastic Services’ Parent and Child magazine. In 2006, he revised with Dr. Brazelton Touchpoints: Birth to Three, 2nd Edition and in 2010, co-edited Nurturing Children and Families: Building on the Legacy of T. B. Brazelton, a textbook on the ongoing generativeness of Brazelton’s seminal research in a wide range of fields. Dr. Sparrow has authored numerous other scholarly works, teaches and lectures nationally and internationally, and is frequently called upon for his expertise by national and international media. Prior to attending medical school, Dr. Sparrow worked for several years as a preschool teacher and journalist in New York City.

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