I think the biggest misconception about infant loss – whether it’s late term or a stillbirth, or shortly after birth – is just that because you didn’t have a lifetime with this child, that it doesn’t hurt as much, or that you’re not going to grieve it in the way that you would another child. I’ve never lost a child that I was able to raise for any amount of time, so I don’t know. But I do know that the son that I had to say good-bye too much too soon, I carried. I carried him for months. I named him. I talked to him. I planned a nursery for him. And when I had to deliver him and hold him with no heartbeat and no smile and no open eyes that… I grieved him as much as I can imagine I would grieve if I lost my 3-year-old or my 1-year-old. He was my baby and I loved him. So if you know someone who has gone through it, or if you’re going through it, just please, remember, they were a child. They were loved by their mom and dad so much and that should be treated as such.