Positive self talk and how it benefits children

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Positive self talk and how it benefits children

Positive self-talk is that voice inside. That voice that we hear ourself say, and what we are saying about ourselves. We need to teach our children positive self-talk. They don't do it naturally. The way that we teach them is by us giving them positive feedback at a young age, giving them encouragement, and then modeling our own positive self-talk. The way to this is at night time when you are tucking your kids in. I may say, and this is contrary with what we are comfortable with in society, I may say, "You know what I really love about myself? I am a kind person. What do you love about yourself?" I did this every single night with my children. What happens is that they start doing it themselves. They have the voice that is telling them that they are strong, they are smart. When the chips fall and they don't win the basketball game or don't succeed in something, they now have that internal voice saying, "It's okay. I'm getting back up and I'm going to try again." It's really critical. At 8 years old, the external voice shuts off and they start listening to their internal voice and they need that skill.

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is an Oregon resident, in the United States, with 18 year old boy/girl twins in the Tigard Tualatin School District, and has been an educator for almost three decades. She began her career as an elementary school teacher for 12 years, then worked as an elementary school administrator for 6 years, and then decided to dedicate herself to teaching parenting classes and workshops exclusively. Kim is trained and certified through a program called Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen, as well by the International Network for Children and Families, in a program called Redirecting Children‘s Behavior. She also has taken recent trainings in the areas of Youth Mental Health First Aid, Adult Mental Health First Aid, ACES (Adverse Childhood Experiences), ASIST (Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training), Trauma Informed Care, Smart Voices/Smart Choices: Parents Talking with Kids about Mental Wellness and Substance Use, and Making the Connection: Stress, Teen Brains & Building Resilience. Kim is active in supporting her local parenting community by providing workshops, classes, coaching families and writing monthly articles for two local newspapers Tualatin Times and Tigard Times. Kim is a monthly guest on KATU's Afternoon Live and an occasional guest on KATU's AM Northwest television show doing parenting segments. Kim also reaches thousands internationally through her close to one hundred 30 minute parenting podcasts found on her website. Additionally, Kim recently made her fifth trip to Asia during the last few years to teach and share her passion in raising cooperative, respectful, resilient and responsible children. Kim’s goal for you is to help reduce conflict, foster mutual respect, and create deeper communication and connections with your loved ones.

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