Why tone of voice with children is so important

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Why tone of voice with children is so important

The tone of voice we use when speaking to our children influences, very heavily, our message. It influences how they are going to receive our message as parents. When we use a sarcastic, humiliating, degrading tone of voice with them, our children have already shut down. They have stopped listening. It's not the message that we are talking about, it's the tone. It's the delivery of the message. When you come from a place of anger, our children will hear that. When you come from a place of love and openness, they'll hear that. Tone of voice is important. Also, when you are using your tone of voice with them, know that you are modeling. It's a way to speak to people, to speak, to their peers, to speak to their teachers, to speak to others in their lives.

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Kim DeMarchi, MEd, CPE

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is an Oregon resident, in the United States, with 18 year old boy/girl twins in the Tigard Tualatin School District, and has been an educator for almost three decades. She began her career as an elementary school teacher for 12 years, then worked as an elementary school administrator for 6 years, and then decided to dedicate herself to teaching parenting classes and workshops exclusively. Kim is trained and certified through a program called Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen, as well by the International Network for Children and Families, in a program called Redirecting Children‘s Behavior. She also has taken recent trainings in the areas of Youth Mental Health First Aid, Adult Mental Health First Aid, ACES (Adverse Childhood Experiences), ASIST (Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training), Trauma Informed Care, Smart Voices/Smart Choices: Parents Talking with Kids about Mental Wellness and Substance Use, and Making the Connection: Stress, Teen Brains & Building Resilience. Kim is active in supporting her local parenting community by providing workshops, classes, coaching families and writing monthly articles for two local newspapers Tualatin Times and Tigard Times. Kim is a monthly guest on KATU's Afternoon Live and an occasional guest on KATU's AM Northwest television show doing parenting segments. Kim also reaches thousands internationally through her close to one hundred 30 minute parenting podcasts found on her website. Additionally, Kim recently made her fifth trip to Asia during the last few years to teach and share her passion in raising cooperative, respectful, resilient and responsible children. Kim’s goal for you is to help reduce conflict, foster mutual respect, and create deeper communication and connections with your loved ones.

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