To help your children know what they feel is the best way to help your child know whether they are stressed and how they are going to manage that stress. We teach families to have a language about stress, a feeling thermometer. Just like a thermometer that measures the temperature outside, when the temperature goes up, it will feel hotter. When your temperature goes up, you feel more uncomfortable. A zero is really comfortable and a ten is very uncomfortable. When you are a ten, there are situations that are predictable that are going to make you feel a ten. Some children, I'm alone in the house and I'm five years old. That's a ten. Once we identify the variety of situations where they feel uncomfortable. We then help children to identify where they feel uncomfortable in their bodies. For some kids, their head hurts. For others, they get a big knot in their heart. For others, the blood drains and they go white. Others flush red. If you tune into your body, you know what your stress is. One, you have a situation; two, you know your body; three, what do you say to yourself? What are you thinking in that situation. Is it a hot thought that makes you feel hot, or a cool thought that you feel calm and relaxed. Finally, you figure out what you are going to do, but you never act until you are able to calm yourself down. The feeling thermometer is a language that we want all family members to share and help them manage their feelings to feel calmer.