What about kids who grow up in an Equally Shared Parenting home? Do they notice that their home is any different from the neighbors' for example? Well, obviously kids notice everything so we can take that for granted. They're going to know what we're saying, what we're doing, maybe even what we're thinking. But when they first start out, obviously, as newborns, they're not going to understand what their families stand for compared to other families. They will, however, begin to verbalize the idea of Equally Shared Parenting. For example, my daughter, when she as very young and fell down and had a boo-boo and called for a parent, she would call for "A parent." "I need a parent," as opposed to, "Mom" or "Dad" for that matter. it's a silly example but it kind of shows you that they're learning, they're internalizing and they're understanding that they can call for either of us and that either of us will make things better. And that's actually a lovely feeling. As they grow older they will begin to understand that their family may be a little bit different and they'll mostly get this from when they watch television or the movies or those television advertisements that say, "Dad is a bumbling idiot. Mom's in charge at home. Mom's tired and she needs to relax," that kind of things. It won't resonate with them or they'll say, "That's not how our family works." In my particular case with my husband they'll even say, "That's not Equally Shared Parenting," but I'm not sure kids would use that particular terminology in other homes. As they grow older and older, however, they'll begin to internalize Equally Shared Parenting as a philosophy and most older children that I've interviewed from Equally Shared Parenting homes actually aspire to Equally Shared Parenting in a very concrete way. They've grown up in a household where mom and day can do everything, and mom and dad even have time to have fun. So they grown up learning that it's not a horrible life to be an adult and they want this for themselves so they tend to speak in terms of not settling for a life where they have to go back to traditional gender roles but rather one where the sky's the limit