What are some pitfalls in the start of equally shared parenting?

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What are some pitfalls in the start of equally shared parenting?

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One of the biggest pitfalls for sharing the child-raising or parenting responsibilities is what I like to call "pseudo equality". Mom is still is charge even though you may be sharing the actual tasks. This can happen when mom leaves her husband in charge of the children but leaves a list, a 'Honey do' list. "Do this, do this, do this. The baby's fed here. This is nap time. Make sure that this happens," and he's not really in charge. So he gets all the bad stuff and none of the good stuff. Then she may come home and she may say, "You didn't do this, you didn't do this and you didn't do this," and then he's blamed as opposed to having just simply had time to enjoy being a parent. He also doesn't leave how to be his own type of parent. The beauty of Equally Shared Parenting is you've got two parents with two different styles of doing things that get modeled for your children and that you can learn from each other by noticing. So I may think that Daddy Day has to go a certain way but if I come home and I see that Daddy Day completely differently, I can have a laugh and I can learn something new. Maybe I can learn a new trick about how to turn a boring day into a totally fun day that I may never have thought of before.

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Marc and Amy Vachon are the authors of Equally Shared Parenting: Rewriting the Rules for a New Generation of Parents, and founders of www.equallysharedparenting.com. They are dedicated to helping parents achieve their dream of an equal partnership, and to providing both mothers and fathers with a roadmap to a balanced life of parenting, breadwinning, homemaking and time for self. Their work has been covered by the New York Times, Boston Globe, Guardian (UK), Fitness Magazine, The Today Show, Parenting, and other media. They have written their own personal story of equally shared parenting in One Big Happy Family, an anthology by Rebecca Walker. Amy is a clinical pharmacy director, and Marc is an information technology manager. They live in Watertown, Massachusetts with their two children, ages 11 and 8.

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