One of the biggest pitfalls for sharing the child-raising or parenting responsibilities is what I like to call "pseudo equality". Mom is still is charge even though you may be sharing the actual tasks. This can happen when mom leaves her husband in charge of the children but leaves a list, a 'Honey do' list. "Do this, do this, do this. The baby's fed here. This is nap time. Make sure that this happens," and he's not really in charge. So he gets all the bad stuff and none of the good stuff. Then she may come home and she may say, "You didn't do this, you didn't do this and you didn't do this," and then he's blamed as opposed to having just simply had time to enjoy being a parent. He also doesn't leave how to be his own type of parent. The beauty of Equally Shared Parenting is you've got two parents with two different styles of doing things that get modeled for your children and that you can learn from each other by noticing. So I may think that Daddy Day has to go a certain way but if I come home and I see that Daddy Day completely differently, I can have a laugh and I can learn something new. Maybe I can learn a new trick about how to turn a boring day into a totally fun day that I may never have thought of before.