Protecting baby's needs

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Protecting baby's needs

I don't know that I would suggest trying to let other people hold your baby and try to get her not to cry. It is really important that you be in tune to what your baby is communicating to you. If she is crying when someone else is holding her, she's telling you, something isn't right for me. Mom and Dad, I need you to protect me because I don't like what's going on right now. When aunt Suzy says, "I want to hold the baby." Preface it with, "You can hold the baby, but if she starts to fuss or cry, I'd really like for you to give her back to me. It's important for us that she feels comfortable and secure when someone is holding her." It is always more important to respect the feelings of your baby, than the feelings of another adult. They are adult, they will figure it out and they will work through it. Your baby is always going to be counting on your for your support. If it's a situation where it's a caregiver and you have to leave your baby, try as much as you can to have a transition period where the baby can get comfortable with that caregiver over time. Don't just drop her off and hope for the best. Really try and be bridge between them and give them some time to acclimate to each other, before they have to be left alone.

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When her son was born, Aimee found herself in uncharted waters. She knew she wanted to be a different type of parent than her parents had been. After years of self-exploration, she felt she had healed a lot of her childhood emotional wounds and that she could be a good mother but she didn't really know how to parent differently. She went to Mommy and Me classes, breastfeeding groups, you name it, searching to fill a void she initially could not identify. They were all helpful but not what she felt she was longing for. She realized she was looking for a safe place to really talk about the challenges she was facing every day. Unfortunately, it seemed that none of the forums she found as a new mother were able to provide that. She vowed then to create such a place for parents, and the idea for Parenting Discovery Center was born.

Her educational background in psychology had nurtured her tremendous curiosity about the impact and importance of infant attachment. Her research in this area had equipped her with a conscious sieve to help evaluate the overwhelming amount of parenting advice available. What she found was that at a time of total vulnerability, parents are often taught parenting techniques that cause them to unwittingly undermine this important and essential bond. 

The Center provides a safe and supportive environment for exploring the emotions and challenges faced by new parents. They are also here to help peoople understand the importance of attachment and help parents build a conscious bond with their baby based upon their individual family's values and lifestyle. 

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