Difficulty bonding with the new baby

Therapist Aimee Wheeler, PsyD, shares advice for new parents on how to bond with your new baby and overcome the difficulty you may be having in bonding with your newborn child
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Difficulty bonding with the new baby

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There are many reasons why you may be having a hard time bonding with your baby. Perhaps you had a difficult birth or it was just different than you imagined it to be. Maybe you were having some concerns as to whether or not this was the right time to have a baby and those doubts are still lingering. It could just be that you are having a difficult time connecting. Your baby sort of speaks a different language than you do in a certain way. Whatever it might be, there are lots of things that can get in the way of our maternal instinct. Some mothers immediately fall in love with their babies and other mothers need just a little bit more time and will fall in love with their babies as they unfold. If you are really concerned that you are really disconnected from your baby, it´s important to seek professional help. You may be experiencing post partum depression. And a therapist or your medical doctor can really help you figure out the best course of action for you in those instances. And it could just be that you are struggling with the concept of new motherhood and the experience you are having, in which case again a therapist or parenting support groups could be really helpful.

Therapist Aimee Wheeler, PsyD, shares advice for new parents on how to bond with your new baby and overcome the difficulty you may be having in bonding with your newborn child

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Aimee Wheeler, PsyD

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When her son was born, Aimee found herself in uncharted waters. She knew she wanted to be a different type of parent than her parents had been. After years of self-exploration, she felt she had healed a lot of her childhood emotional wounds and that she could be a good mother but she didn't really know how to parent differently. She went to Mommy and Me classes, breastfeeding groups, you name it, searching to fill a void she initially could not identify. They were all helpful but not what she felt she was longing for. She realized she was looking for a safe place to really talk about the challenges she was facing every day. Unfortunately, it seemed that none of the forums she found as a new mother were able to provide that. She vowed then to create such a place for parents, and the idea for Parenting Discovery Center was born.

Her educational background in psychology had nurtured her tremendous curiosity about the impact and importance of infant attachment. Her research in this area had equipped her with a conscious sieve to help evaluate the overwhelming amount of parenting advice available. What she found was that at a time of total vulnerability, parents are often taught parenting techniques that cause them to unwittingly undermine this important and essential bond. 

The Center provides a safe and supportive environment for exploring the emotions and challenges faced by new parents. They are also here to help peoople understand the importance of attachment and help parents build a conscious bond with their baby based upon their individual family's values and lifestyle. 

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